Confusion

Kp999

So. Ladies views welcome here. Was seeing a girl for a couple of months a year ago. It didn't work out as she was having difficulties getting over her previous relationship. We stayed friends on and off, but, we fell out a few months back mainly as I'd get drunk and call her (stupid I know). I apologised recently and we're back on speaking terms, grab lunch every now and again, we've gone to the cinema on her request. She's asked me to call into her house and say hello to her family over Xmas (we both live in London and will be back in Ireland for Xmas). She knows I am still interested in her. We get on really well. What's going on here?
Does she want another friend, is she testing me out, does she just want attention - I don't get it. Insight please!

3rdDegree

Talk to her. That's the only way to know. If you let it drag on too long, you may find yourself firmly entrenched in the "friends zone". That might become a very painful place to be.

Kp999

Fair enough. Maybe it's just as a man it seems odd behavior.

ash23

Does she want another friend, is she testing me out, does she just want attention - I don't get it

One or all of the above. Or a variety of other things.....who knows?

What is clear though is that she has no interest in a relationship with you. Sorry to be blunt but there it is.

You can stay friends with her but only if you think it won't end up in you torturing yourself over every little word, meeting and invitation (which I don't think is possible) or you take a big step away from her. You want a relationship. She wants friendship. No point settling for less imo. Cut contact.

Kp999

Ok - got it