Looking for some advice....

Keano!

I'll try keep this as short as possible.

Basically there's a girl in college who I'm practically head over heels falling for. We chat on facebook a fair bit, and both of us will initiate the conversation. She'd even start a conversation with a question which is very simple to figure out (eg: what classroom are we in? just check the timetable ) We had a class night out a few weeks ago and she let me stay in her dorm place in the common room saving me about 40 quid for a taxi alone so that was really appreciated. We'd text a bit too but not as much as chatting in class/in the halls or on facebook. I was in class once and she texted me during it saying she wasn't in the mood for going to it and wondering was she missing much....

Her home is at the other end of the country so there's little or no chance seeing her at the weekends because she goes home. I know she had an ex-boyfriend because she mentioned it to me once when we were talking and as far as I can tell (99% sure) she doesn't have a boyfriend. She's your typical girl really, not that blonde bombshell with skin on show and all that. I like her for how we get on and there's like a few cute things she does when I'm with her or can see her, yano.

At the end of the day, I'm really not sure what I should do next. I've asked a few times that we should get another class night organised because I'd really like to head out to town with her again. Thought that'd be the best way, and she's always said the likes of, yes, deffo, we have to etc... but when I suggest it to the class there's only about 3 others who are seemingly willing to (a lot of them seem to be quite dry ) So I don't really want to ask her out on her own because it was to go the wrong way, we're in lectures most days together so I don't want any awkward tension between us. Really appreciate any help I could get... Because I don't want to let her get away from me (as soppy as that sounds)


Like I said, any help/advice would be appreciated

MissFlitworth

Keano! wrote: »

So I don't really want to ask her out on her own because it was to go the wrong way, we're in lectures most days together so I don't want any awkward tension between us.

One way or another though you're going to have to let her know you like her so the potential awkward tension if she doesn't think of you like that is still there, you won't avoid it just because you manage to wrangle a fake group outing for your first date. (Unless you're planning on doing all of this through the power of hinting and alluding to things, in which case you will drive both of you stone mental )

You don't have to ask her out on a date or anything, you could just text her when you're going out yourself, casually, and see if she's out or let her know where you are if she fancies meeting for a drink.

squonk

Yeah, something casual and a meet for a drink kind of thing is the way to go. Go bowling or go to something you're both interested in as a pair.

I'd steer away from big group outings myself. It's her you want to spend time with and not the class. Focus on getting to know her more outside of classes. It's the spending mutual alone time together that's what matters.

djimi

In fairness the casual meet ups are fine but at some point youre going to have to man up and just ask her out properly! Beat around the bush too long and youll miss your chance. If she says no and its awkward afterwards then so be it; its a chance youll have to take. Its better to regret the things you did than to regret the things you didnt do...

stargazer 68

djimi wrote: »

In fairness the casual meet ups are fine but at some point youre going to have to man up and just ask her out properly! Beat around the bush too long and youll miss your chance. If she says no and its awkward afterwards then so be it; its a chance youll have to take. Its better to regret the things you did than to regret the things you didnt do...

This!! Come on OP ask the girl out!! Its irrelevant that she goes home every weekend - maybe if she was in a relationship she wouldn't!

desbrook

OP I'm 41 ... I went to college 89 - 92 and did I have similar dilemmas ???? Of course - but we didn't have facebook or text. Text is made for the shy guy asking the girl out ... you won't stutter and if you go red she can't see lol.
Maybe she's into you maybe not but theres only one way to find out. A group yoke is dangerous as she might end up with someone else and then you'll feel a right gosh**the! Mention some new place and text her asking does she fancy going "some night next week " . If she interested she'll say yes ... its really that simple. If she makes some excuse - probably not . If she fancied you she'd have suggested an alternative like the ad during the Euro Championships . It's really not rocket science and believe me rejection is better than wondering what might have been! !

emsie80

go for it - ask her out. Whats the worst thing thats goin to happen ?? she might say yes, she might say no. Either way at least you'll know

Lorna123

Sounds to me like she is waiting to be asked out. She has given you enough signs. Go for it.