what to do next (long story)

needadvice89

ok im stuck in a rut here, I have been good friend with this girl now for 5 years i always fancied her but at the time she was with someone so never bothered progressing it. I helped her through that break up and the next one to we confided everthing in each other even a pregancy scare at 5 am on a sat night from here first ex she had gone back to that nite. we were so close people though we were actually going out, anyways she has been single now about 8 months. on the august bank holiday sunday nite i remember it well she text me to ask me where i was so i told her she said she wanted me to come and pick her up this was 2 am so i said ok why she said she fancied me big time whitha long time i said i also did. so i picke her up and we went for a spin, we kissed a cpl of times that nite , she asked me to come back to hers and sleep whit her as she wanted to wake upi long side me. i said we best not as it was very fast so i droped her home and kissed her good nite. the next day we went off and spent the day together but it went back like it was before as friend noting happen or what had happened was spoken about. we texted and chatted about it but she said she did not want to go any firther as she wanted to remail friends and did not want to lose a friend if things would not work out, anyways i cant get her out of my head since that time we started drifting appart so i bit the bullet and asked her what was going on she said she had strong feelings for me and did not know what to do. i i re assured her i had them for her. then i get a text from a female friend of her to say she really likes me but if affraid of what would happen if it does not work out and just to go for it and sweep her off her feet. so i went for it and asked her out and away last fridat for dinner she said no but picked me up and we went out. i again asked her out saturday night to the cinema and she said no so i so ok but knowing me she knew i was in bad form so i tild her how i feel and she sai I SEE thats the last text i got sat night today is sunday nite and i havent exted or herd from her since

WHAT TO DO NEXT
i know its long winded story but now you have all the details im stumped

curlzy

You both sound head wrecking. If the relationship would be as up and down as you two sound, then I would avoid it altogether tbh. How old are ye both? Very young teenagers by the sounds of it, neither of you want to be together . . but you do . . . but you're afraid of blah blah blah. I mean come on! And why are your friends getting inolved FFS?

Honestly OP, if ye both are teenagers then just enjoy the drama of it all. If you're over say 22, then cut contact and go and find an adult to have a relationship with, unless you love the drama, in which case just go for it coz it'll be the perfect match.

orlaghmcel

hey op

you gotta be careful here..the problem is that you have invested more than this girl has ,youve been there through the break ups and pregnancy scare so youv literaly become emotionally invested ( which isnt your fault ,it just happens) the problem is i think you have become her go to guy ,when the chips are down she goes to good aul faithful!!

have you ever kissed previously or was that the first time?? the reason im asking is that it seems like it ment more to you and possibly at the time for her it was just a case of having someone rather than no one (not meaning to sound harsh )

i would suggest breaking that connectiin,she knows youl be there when things go wrong...so let things go wrong but this time you wont be offering a shoulder.. hopefully this will make her evaluate the situation and see that you may possibly be more than just the comfort guy...

if she doesnt than all you lost was a friend that tugged at your heart strings and essentially played with your emotions.

keep the head up op...

Pippy1976

i agree with the other two posters. She's using you from what you say... and it's my opinion, perhaps you think differently. You don't seem to be getting much, other than the run-around, in return.

cut contact and move on - this 'relationship' is holding you back from discovering who you really should be with in this life.

Good luck!

djimi

Pay less attention to her and more attention to other girls; if she really does like you then shell let you know about it pretty quickly!

needadvice89

Thanks guys so much it was tough at first but haven been doing my very best not to make any more contact with her at the moment (havent got any either) but will keep you poasted . ii have gotten the advice before from a friend but now that i got it from a nutral sorce she was right

Thanks again