Messed around?

LegacyUser

Hey guys,

I'm just looking for your advice here. I during the summer met a girl while on holiday whom I ended pretty much dating out there. We had our ups and downs out there to be fair but we always just seemed to click so well and be really attracted to each other. Towards the end of our time on holiday she prompted me to take her for dinner, now as a both of us were college students in my opinion it was a big gesture to take this girl for a date in a very fancy restaurant that wasn't cheap for myself. Now after this we had a fallen out a couple of days later when something happened to her and she flipped out on me. At this stage I left for another part of my holiday and when I was away she contacted me again telling me to have a great time and she was looking forward to seeing me again. We texted to whole time I was away and when I got back we got together again for a couple of days until one night we were out where I stupidly called her something to her face, after this i immediately apologized and she accused me of trying to get with other girls cause I was dancing with friends I knew from back home. Anyway after this we didn't talk again and I went home demoralized as I had pretty much fallen for her.

Anyway here is where the real question begins, when she got back to Ireland a couple of days after she got back she messaged me her number on Facebook. We kept contact for a couple of weeks and when I went back to college in her hometown we agreed we would meet up with each other the first weekend I was back. At the time she was away from home because of work experience and so we could only see each other at weekends, so I skipped weekend work to spend time with her. We met each other anyway everything went great she texted later to say it was really nice and that night we both ended up being out and her staying in mine. Anyway then after this I texted her once no reply, next day no reply then on 2 days later messaged her on Facebook minimal conversation. At this point I will admit to being angry so one last time I said I'd contact her and texted the following weekend saying it was great to see her and would she like to meet again, once again nothing until.... one week later at 4am she texts saying she would love to met again. So we begin chatting again and now that she has finished her work experience we organize to meet mid-week, the night before this though she is out and decides to stay in mine. We had arranged that she would let me know when on the day and lone behold never got a text, texted her twice to see what the story was nothing. Then randomly bumbed into her the next day out and I was blanked by her. After this I got really drunk and met her again and made some inappropriate hand gestures to her. Once again apologized immediately for this and got no reply. After that i asked her the next week was she going out and what had happened to the coffee we were meant to have, she texted me hours later that she was out and in the same nightclub I was in, I knew if i saw her that night I may do something I regret so I texted her to have a good night, and later again asked why we hadn't met up with each other the previous week to which i got no reply to both. After this we didnt talk at all until i meet her 2 weeks later on the stairs of my college where we barely spoke and I left very quickly and abruptly without saying more than 5 words.

That was 1 month ago and I know since then she has been with other guys and likewise myself I have been with other girls. I know the relationship is effectively dead but I just want to know am I correct for feeling wronged by the girl and not being overly fond of her anymore? after all, I feel that all i asked for was a text as to what happened instead I was just left wondering what went wrong and feeling like a fool for pursuing her as much as I did after making it clear I was getting quite serious about her. Would appreciate any help guys and girls

Zen 2nd

The only help I can give you is to forget all about it. No point thinking about the past, chalk it up to experience and move on.

gerryk

Who knows... sounds like a headwrecker, though.

daisybelle2008

Overanalysing the past is not useful, move on, be happy. Forget what happened it is only as big a deal as you make it, and you seem to be making a good stab at torturing yourself over the irrelevant and ancient.

LegacyUser

OP here, advice taken lads realized know have been over analyzing the situation time to get a move on with other stuff.

Thanks again!