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Heartbroken

  • 31-10-2012 3:58pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I had a relationship with a man which ended a few months ago, when it ended we didn’t go our separate ways we kept going back to one another, me thinking he might still have feelings for me and wanted to give things another chance. Anyway last week I found out through a mutual friend that he has been dating someone while seeing me seen we broke up and they plan on going away together this week. I’m devastated at being lied to and have told him to never contact me again. All I got from him is whatever, you don’t have a clue and good luck. I know all I can do is move on now but I’m so consumed with anger and hurt how do I get over this???


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  • #2
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    You poor thing :( You know if you stick to having no contact whatsoever with him you will begin to feel better sooner rather than later. Up until now you've been in a no-man's land, hanging on to hope that you will reconcile and that he'll call you and essentially let him control your emotions. If you can find some inner strength and resolutely block his number, remove all trace of him, and don't ever entertain a thing he has to say again then, and only then you can begin the healing process and get on with life without him. Surround yourself with those closest to you, talk about it and get it out of your system and be as angry as you want. In time you'll see he wasn't the right one for you but it's a process you have to go through, part of that process is feeling like hell. You will be fine though and the best decision you'll ever make is having nothing more to do with him. Keep the chin up x


  • #3
    ABajaninCork
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,411 ✭✭✭ABajaninCork


    I'd say you had a lucky escape! He sounds horrible.

    You deserve better OP. Keep yourself busy and therefore unavailable when ('cos he will!) Lover Boy calls. In fact - just delete his number and all traces of him.

    Keep smiling! :)


  • #4
    fits
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,016 ✭✭✭✭fits


    You say, thank goodness I see that horrible man for what he is now, and you move on.


  • #5
    dellas1979
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,128 ✭✭✭dellas1979


    sad_lady wrote: »
    I had a relationship with a man which ended a few months ago, when it ended we didn’t go our separate ways we kept going back to one another, me thinking he might still have feelings for me and wanted to give things another chance. Anyway last week I found out through a mutual friend that he has been dating someone while seeing me seen we broke up and they plan on going away together this week. I’m devastated at being lied to and have told him to never contact me again. All I got from him is whatever, you don’t have a clue and good luck. I know all I can do is move on now but I’m so consumed with anger and hurt how do I get over this???

    Sorry, but I would not let him have the last word on this...this one I feel you will regret - what a crappy reply! I would simply say "Oh I do have a clue, youre a liar. Do not contact me again". Thats closure. End of/


  • #6
    Daisy78
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,051 ✭✭✭Daisy78


    I have been that soldier. He was already in the throes of a New fling, relationship, whatever you want to call it we were breaking up. It actually made easier for me to cut contact with him when I realised how low he could sink. This is a blessing in disguise, you've seen his true colours so why would you want him. Feel sorry for the poor unfortunate who has him now. You were meant for better things , time will be an indicator of that.


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks all for your replies.

    Believe me i don't want him now, i'm just sorry it had to be this way. We always had a good relationship and got on well and always said no matter what we'd remain friends. I hate him now and wasn't kind in what i said to him but he deserved it. I also let his new fling know that he was seeing me while with her. I'm sure he's wormed his way out of it though. I don't care anymore i just feel sorry for her now, cos i know he'll do the same.

    If he contacts me which i doubt he will, he will be ignored. I deserve better than how hes treated me. It just hurts a lot and i feel like a complete fool!


  • #8
    lady2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3 ✭lady2012


    so sorry for u, but i think he would have broken your heart, and better now rather than later when you've invested even more into the rlship. Talk to someone, even counselling helps just to get you started on the moving on process. Take it a day at a time and one day you're gonna rem and laugh coz you'll b in a better, more fulfilling relationship with someone who deserves you. All the best hun :)


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