Is it me

Ruffhausen

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Idle Passerby

What ages are you? I ask because if you got together in late teens or early 20's its not that surprising that the one boy one girl dream has changed and there is still no real rush for her to make a decision on whether or not she wants kids. If shes in her mid-late thirties or older though I wouldn't hold out hope that she's going to suddenly change her mind and want a family.

In regards wanting the house to be in her name alone, it sounds like she's making choices as if she's a single person, or as if she expects to be a single person again at some point. Does she actually want a future with you because it looks like she's looking after her own needs/desires but isn't too concerned with meeting yours.

daisybelle2008

Your language or phrasing is kind of strange OP. phrases like 'I am told', 'I have no idea'...it looks like this relationship is do something happening to you, not something you are on an equal footing with.
You seem very passive and more than a little easily dominated by a stronger personality.
That may be the nature of your relationship, but if the compromise is she IS willing to have a child but you are still not happy with her motivation, then you have a problem with compromise.
Is everything else good with the relationship?

Merkin

You need to have a make or break conversation here and bed down once and for all what it is you want collectively. You don't sound to be in the same library, let alone the same page! Do you even communicate? Making a child together and committing to loving it and supporting it and raising it together is a bilateral decision, her approach to having children is a "we will see" which is clearly a unilateral decision with her calling the shots. After nine years it's time now to decide whether you want to be together or not - neither of you sound particularly sure.