advice plz with cancer man

ariescutie30

I've been dating this cancer man for a short period of time but fell for him quickly..this is what he wanted..hes in the process of divorce..she says she'll always be there no matter what he does to her..she's crazy burned up his truck ect ect..but this still created insecurity in me even though they have baggage and shes def not attractive.but i know she has invested her time..we don't have that..i cut him off he threw the love card i folded..i was happy..but i nagged and nagged..well deserved nagging trust me..he knows im a attractive nice good girl and i want to be with him..but hes now being distant..not texting really..i sent him a message telling him the things i did appreciate about him and how i just wanted to know that he still reconized and appreciated them in me too..he responded that the message was sweeet and Ty and that he was still "here" and he would never forget that..i said in the text that i wouldgive him his space..but still no text now 10 hours later..this is very unlike him..i know cancer men retreat in their shell..is it this?..or is he no longer interested and too chicken to tell me?..he's been distant for a couple of days..i don't want to appear desperate even though i am..lol..i want this to work..i adore him..:(

Hardonraging

ariescutie30 wrote: »

I've been dating this cancer man for a short period of time but fell for him quickly..this is what he wanted..hes in the process of divorce..she says she'll always be there no matter what he does to her..she's crazy burned up his truck ect ect..but this still created insecurity in me even though they have baggage and shes def not attractive.but i know she has invested her time..we don't have that..i cut him off he threw the love card i folded..i was happy..but i nagged and nagged..well deserved nagging trust me..he knows im a attractive nice good girl and i want to be with him..but hes now being distant..not texting really..i sent him a message telling him the things i did appreciate about him and how i just wanted to know that he still reconized and appreciated them in me too..he responded that the message was sweeet and Ty and that he was still "here" and he would never forget that..i said in the text that i wouldgive him his space..but still no text now 10 hours later..this is very unlike him..i know cancer men retreat in their shell..is it this?..or is he no longer interested and too chicken to tell me?..he's been distant for a couple of days..i don't want to appear desperate even though i am..lol..i want this to work..i adore him..:(

Take a look at what you said above ... from a guy's perspective i could prob have you ironing and folding my boxers by now ..

"i cut him off he threw the love card i folded..i was happy"

As i mentioned above, he clearly knows how to string you along, now it maybe simple a case that he's stressed out over the Ex, and you are not helping the situation by demanding attention..

Why not give him a few days to chill out, instead of worrying if you match up to his Ex? dont contact him even if it takes a week or 10 days, see if he comes running and read his attitude and emotional state.. if he doesn't come running you'll know exactally how he feels about you then.


Lastly "i want this to work..i adore him"

It takes two people to make a relationship work, something to keep in mind when he rings / txt's

ariescutie30

Hardonraging wrote: »

Take a look at what you said above ... from a guy's perspective i could prob have you ironing and folding my boxers by now ..

"i cut him off he threw the love card i folded..i was happy"

As i mentioned above, he clearly knows how to string you along, now it maybe simple a case that he's stressed out over the Ex, and you are not helping the situation by demanding attention..

Why not give him a few days to chill out, instead of worrying if you match up to his Ex? dont contact him even if it takes a week or 10 days, see if he comes running and read his attitude and emotional state.. if he doesn't come running you'll know exactally how he feels about you then.


Lastly "i want this to work..i adore him"

It takes two people to make a relationship work, something to keep in mind when he rings / txt's

Thanks for responding...i prob would be ironing boxers..Spanish thing..lol..well he called rather than text saying how i better not not contact him again for a day..he thinks hes so smart..lol..will see I'll see how long this game continues before im tired..but for now..im going to lay back and let him chase me..after all i am better than that..:)

Hardonraging

ariescutie30 wrote: »

Thanks for responding...i prob would be ironing boxers..Spanish thing..lol..well he called rather than text saying how i better not not contact him again for a day..he thinks hes so smart..lol..will see I'll see how long this game continues before im tired..but for now..im going to lay back and let him chase me..after all i am better than that..:)

Truth be told, if you're better then that, you'd prob run a mile, nobody needs that sort of drama in there lives, if people cannot behave and communicate as adult's on a day to day basis what hope have you got in the long term with him ??

Anywho, sit on you're hands, and let him stew for a while..

Esoteric_

God, the two of you sound like you're playing head games with each other.

He's distant, you cut contact, he says he loves you, you run back, he's distant, you send him messages, he tells you to not contact him, you decide to let him chase you.

OP, sorry but this is like a relationship between 15 year old kids.

What exactly is so great about this man? He's clearly not particularly interested in you so why lower yourself by waiting for him?

ariescutie30

LyndaMcL wrote: »

God, the two of you sound like you're playing head games with each other.

He's distant, you cut contact, he says he loves you, you run back, he's distant, you send him messages, he tells you to not contact him, you decide to let him chase you.

OP, sorry but this is like a relationship between 15 year old kids.

What exactly is so great about this man? He's clearly not particularly interested in you so why lower yourself by waiting for him?

Im not i told him im done..this is very childish ..game playing not my choice..just happened..bottom line..i cared more..and im not happy with that..im sad but this too shall pass.:(

ariescutie30

ariescutie30 wrote: »

Im not i told him im done..this is very childish ..game playing not my choice..just happened..bottom line..i cared more..and im not happy with that..im sad but this too shall pass.:(

Also he didn't tell me not to contact him..he said for me to not go again with out contacting him