help with C of I protocol

theboyblunder

My wife has an inherited problem involving compulsive present giving. We have a friend whose son is being confirmed (C of I) and she wants to give hima present. She doesnt want to offend and comes from the catholic tradition. I assume the catholic traditional cashfest is not usual. So does anyone know what (if anything) people give? Thanks.

Onesimus

I'm not CofI but I think a gift to someone to celebrate their confirmation in the CC is a nice idea. Gift or card or whatever.

It's not like shes getting this young lad a limo. I'd relax a bit.

lottpaul

It varies from parish to parish. The groups making confirmation are generally small and may have discussed the whole gift issue as a group and come to a decision. e.g. donations to a charity etc

This would have been made known so if you haven't heard anything and she wants to give a gift something simple and, more importantly, modest (I can't stress that enough) is acceptable.
A book token or gift voucher and a nice card would be fine and very much appreciated.

theboyblunder

lottpaul wrote: »

It varies from parish to parish. The groups making confirmation are generally small and may have discussed the whole gift issue as a group and come to a decision. e.g. donations to a charity etc

This would have been made known so if you haven't heard anything and she wants to give a gift something simple and, more importantly, modest (I can't stress that enough) is acceptable.
A book token or gift voucher and a nice card would be fine and very much appreciated.

Thanks for that sounds like good advice

LordSutch

Yep, something small like a book token or gift voucher would do the job, nothing too fancy.

martinedwards

we had 3 sons confirmed a few months back and othe than Grandparents they got nothing.

every parish is different I guess, but on a personal level I think society has gone too far with giving cards and gift for every tiny little thing anyone does.

I honestly wouldn't be suprised to see a "congratulations on receiving this card" card

Greaney

lottpaul wrote: »

It varies from parish to parish. The groups making confirmation are generally small and may have discussed the whole gift issue as a group and come to a decision. e.g. donations to a charity etc

This would have been made known so if you haven't heard anything and she wants to give a gift something simple and, more importantly, modest (I can't stress that enough) is acceptable.
A book token or gift voucher and a nice card would be fine and very much appreciated.

Donations to Charity? That sounds wonderful. Oh my goodness, what stark contrast to what has happened to the Catholic Confirmation.

homer911

I was brought up in the Church of Ireland. I can recall receiving a copy of John Bunyan's Pilgrim's Progress in modern English which I really enjoyed and still have. It was actually very appropriate considering the occasion.

A Christian book from the likes of Veritas or Footprints would be a good idea..

Sulla Felix

Greaney wrote: »

Donations to Charity? That sounds wonderful. Oh my goodness, what stark contrast to what has happened to the Catholic Confirmation.

The community has to take responsibility. I'm not religious, but my nieces and nephews got Bothar vouchers instead of cash.

Jellybaby1

The last time I gave a gift for confirmation I went to the Scripture Union shop and checked out the Christian magazines for young people and bought one, then I bought a year's subscription for the magazine for the child in their own name. You could ask the staff in the shop for their recommendations too.

tony81

Greaney wrote: »

Donations to Charity? That sounds wonderful. Oh my goodness, what stark contrast to what has happened to the Catholic Confirmation.

Surely giving nothing is a start contrast. Oh your goodness :rolleyes:

COYW

As others have said, it will vary from parish to parish. Some don't do gifts but if you give something simple like a small voucher or card, it will be received in an appreciative manner, whether gifts are being given or not. Whatever you do, don't go over the top with the gift. Think small and modest!