Dating, useless at it!

NewYork1979

I was just looking for a bit of advice/opinions.

I'm single after a long relationship and I'm ready to meet new people. Well I met someone two weeks ago. This someone is someone I know from years ago and we have always had an attraction to one another, I would have met him a few times prior to the relationship I was in but he didn't seem overly interested at the time. I'm now 31, he's the same.

Anyhow, I'm the type of woman who is pretty busy in life and I don't do the game thing, I think life is for living and so I would be straight out with what I feel or want from someone rather than wondering and thinking about it too much. The night I met the guy (two weeks ago), we chatted and kissed, I left it there even though he had suggested a drink, I was a bit tipsy so I didn't think of saying anything! I text him a few days after and asked him if he wanted to go for a drink last weekend and he did, so we met up and had a great time. He is away now at the moment which I knew and I text him to see did he want to meet again and he said he would love to, that he had a great time but there was nothing agreed as to when we might meet. He text me the other day and I text back but nothing since.

I guess I'm just wondering how to play this? I really like this guy but I think my being too straight out can go against me and I don't want to frighten him off because I am far from desperate but yet it can come across that way if you're too forward. I think part of this is because of how he was when we were younger so I'm expecting him to mess about and I am way beyond that. If you like someone, do you go on dates or do you have to do all this waiting game business to see does he like me or not?? To be honest I want to date this guy, if he doesn't want that then I'll move on, I like him too much for it to be a fling.

Thanks for reading the confusion, dating has never been my strong point!

Sorcha16

To be honest, it sounds as though you're more into him than he is into you. You sound a little scarily certain that you want to pursue something with this guy, whereas he seems to be at the undecided, wait and see stage -which is entirely his prerogative.

Have patience because people (especially ones you've only dated for 2 weeks) aren't autmatically going to be on the same page as you. If he's interested, he'll make sure you'll know and if he's not, he won't.

NewYork1979

That's true, I am probably more into him already. I wouldn't even call what we are "dating", I think that's what I'm trying to establish. Like at the moment I don't feel too comfy just texting him for the fun of it which is what I want to do because I don't know how he will take it.

I am in no rush with this guy but when I don't know where I stand, it drives me mad. I think it's time to back off for now and see what happens with him.

NewYork1979

Really appreciate the advice Sorcha, you hit the nail on the head about him not being sure as it's such early days which is completely natural but you know yourself when things are going around in your head.

Going on a date with this guy this week, one of us will have to drive to meet up so a few drinks are not really a go. Any nice dating ideas? We are both fairly sporty so I was thinking the driving range? The cinema is too impersonal I think? Any ideas are welcome..