I dunno what to do anymore...

LegacyUser

Hey,

I guess I just need advice and someone who can help relate to me. I know what I have to do, but it's just so much easier said than done, and I dunno how to do it!

I'm a 20 year old female in University. Have a stable boyfriend to whom I love very much and our relationship is perfect (apart from the odd fight over me being cranky... but I'll get to that) and I live away from home. Here the problems begin...

I live away from home, therefore all my best friends are back at home. I have friends where I go to college, but most of these people are not really close friends, and any close friends I did have down here, well, they turned out to in short, the bitchiest people I have ever come across and majorly screwed me over last year, my whole group of college friends. So I'm down here on my own... and I hate it. I hate the lack of close friends I have here and it's just coming to the stage where it's affecting me and everyone else around me.

I've therefore, unintentionally, begun to rely on my boyfriend and get cranky when he texts me saying he's off having fun, while I'm sitting in my room doing nothing (hence the fights over me being cranky.. Immature I know and I hate myself for reacting that way). I hate being on my own too much and not having social contact.

The people I live with are grand, but run their own lives, same with everyone else in college. The Societies and Clubs are also very cliquey and I'd be too scared to attend one on my own anyway. I just don't have any clue what to do anymore, nobody seems to want anymore friends, they all just wanna get on with life, and get in and get out and stick with people from school or people they know from back home. I've been down here for 3 years now and it's only this year it's properly begun to affect me.

It's making me upset, stressed and I just wish people would being so cliquey and judgmental (lots of people judge me due to my obvious impulsive nature, and they don't like it!) and I just don't have any clue what to do.

I am in college full time, looking for a job and anything to do in my spare time, so if anyone does have suggestions or any advice for me, please let me know! I dunno where to start looking or how to get myself out of this rut, well I do, but just do not know the correct way to do it.

Thanks for any help that can be given

dudara

You need to get out there and meet some new people. Sorry to be harsh, but you are the person holding yourself back in that room.

Putting all perceptions about Socs & Clubs aside for a minute - is there any sport or club that you would like to join?