Civil Ceremony Congratulations card

Ellsbells

A couple I know are having a (same sex) civil ceremony soon. Has anyone seen congratulations cards to suit this? I dont want to send them a marriage card. I know I have seen them somewhere but where .....???

John Mason

i have seen them in loads of card shops and online

Toots

If you're in dublin then the card shop in Dundrum town centre definitely has them.

ABajaninCork

I think M & S do them as well.

Staph

Paperchase in Arrnotts have them too.

lazygal

I've seen them in Swalk in the Royal Hibernian Way and in a card shop in Stephen's Green.

Vojera

I saw one in Tesco in Maynooth, so other big Tescos might have them too.

Peregrinus

And you can always get a generic blank card, and write your own message in it. You get a better choice of artwork that way, and you're not stuck with Hallmark versifications for the message.

sparky_2011

Or you could try Moonpig.com or funky pigeon.com and design your own!

ABajaninCork

Moonpig are expensive and VERY slow to post. Some friends of ours sent a condolence card to us via Moonpig from the UK. It took SIX weeks to arrive. My friends were mortified...

You should also note Moonpig post from Jersey.

tatli_lokma

Ellsbells wrote: »

A couple I know are having a (same sex) civil ceremony soon. Has anyone seen congratulations cards to suit this? I dont want to send them a marriage card. I know I have seen them somewhere but where .....???

I know that technically as far as the state is concerned civil partnerships are different than a marriage, but I would argue that in 99.9% of cases, same sex couples entering into a civil partnership consider themselves to be married for all intents and purposes. It is only the law that does not give it full rights of marriage, but as far as the emotional importance and the committment made, it is a marriage - if you know what I mean? I'm not explaining this very well....

anyway, my reason for saying this is that a 'marriage' or 'wedding' card would not be inappropriate. Congratulations on your wedding day sounds so much nicer than congratulations on your civil partnership, don't you think?
In which case just get a standard wedding card, as long as it doesn't have a man and woman on it, or reference to him and her, he and she etc. Something with a nice verse about commitment to each other, spending your life together etc applies whether it be a same sex or mixed sex wedding.

Melena

I might be able to help. I can make you one if you like? I am an art student and do this kind of freelance stuff on the side.PM me if you want any details.
I would be glad to help.

Ellsbells

Well he described the day to me as a civil partnership and I didn't want to rub his nose in it as done people have an issue that its not a full marriage ceremony

Thanks all!!

Prenderb

Check out http://doodlemoosedesigns.com/ who have some cards especially for the same-sex, civil partnership side of things!

http://www.doodlemoosedesigns.com/category/weddingstationery/same-sex-wedding-invitations/

tatli_lokma

Ellsbells wrote: »

Well he described the day to me as a civil partnership and I didn't want to rub his nose in it as done people have an issue that its not a full marriage ceremony

Thanks all!!

it is a full ceremony...it is not legally the same as a marriage, but it is a full ceremony. And yes people do have an issue with it noe having the same rights as a marriage and rightly so, but giving someone a card to congratulate them on their wedding day would not 'rub his nose in it' at all. He is still having a wedding...this wedding does not confer the same legal rights to marriage as a heterosexual couple, but it is still a wedding.

You can have lots of different types of weddings, some of which are not even legally recognised but they are still a wedding.

I think you are getting too caught up on this 'civil partnership' thing TBH. Just buy them a nice 'on your wedding day' card, because it is their wedding day. What rights said wedding confers is a different and seperate issue. If you are in any way in doubt why not ask a family member or friend of the couple if they would be offended or feel their nose was rubbed in it by giving a wedding card.

The only faux pas you can make is if you get one that is specifically referencing a heterosexual couple.

Ellsbells

Little Ted wrote: »

I think you are getting too caught up on this 'civil partnership' thing TBH.

I am quoting the person getting married so I wont get a wedding card. Thanks for your input/ opinion (which was off topic) but I am happier going to the trouble of finding them the correct card.

tatli_lokma

Ellsbells wrote: »

I am quoting the person getting married so I wont get a wedding card.

so they expressly said to you, 'we're not having a wedding, we're having a civil partnership'. Fair enough, but strange.

Ellsbells wrote: »

Thanks for your input/ opinion (which was off topic) but I am happier going to the trouble of finding them the correct card.

Firstly, not off topic and if you have a problem with my posts report them.

Secondly 'correct' card??? seriously???? :rolleyes:

In fact some gay friends of mine would be more offended to have their 'noses rubbed in' the fact that they are not legally married than they would by giving them a wedding card. Its like distinctly pointing out that they are not married. But I won't get into it, cos it might upset you if I go off topic.

Ellsbells

Little Ted wrote: »

so they expressly said to you, 'we're not having a wedding, we're having a civil partnership'. Fair enough, but strange.



Firstly, not off topic and if you have a problem with my posts report them.

Secondly 'correct' card??? seriously???? :rolleyes:

In fact some gay friends of mine would be more offended to have their 'noses rubbed in' the fact that they are not legally married than they would by giving them a wedding card. Its like distinctly pointing out that they are not married. But I won't get into it, cos it might upset you if I go off topic.

I didnt ask for your view on marriage v civil ceremony. I simply asked where to get a certain type of card.

Your opinion, your choice and way off topic.

iguana

Little Ted, I think we can assume that Ellsbells knows her particular friends and what they would like. So can we stay on the specific topic of where to get the card she wants, not whether or not she should.