Confused over guy

LegacyUser

Hi just wondering if anyone could throw some light on this situation as I am confused!!

Met this guy about 4 months ago, hit it off straight away been texting/calling pretty much every day since. See each other a couple of times a week and things have been going really well. Don't feel like I have ever connected with a guy so well before, he really treats me so well and every time he texts my heart skips a little. I've never felt so close to someone and feel like i've known him forever.

So at the wknd I was a bit tipsy and we were having such a nice time that I told him I liked him, he seemed delighted and said he felt the same. I then quickly changed the subject.

Now I have not heard from him in 2 days and am worried I have scared him off?? Should I have kept my mouth shut??

dannyc31

why should you of kept your mouth shut? you told him how you really feel. now if his response was a lie unfortunatley that is something you will need to find out for yourself and just except that he is not quite in the same space as you. make contact with him, ask him out for dinner or a few drinks dont mention anything about a talk, just act normal. then assess him when you are out and see if he is acting different, strange or distant in any way. this could be a sign that he is pulling back as its all happening too fast and too soon for him.

OP it is very common for men to feel this in the early stages of an intense relationship. after that if its meant to be its meant to be.

Ellsbells

Ah look, its easier said than done, but leave him off at this stage. If he is scared by you telling him you like him after 4 months then he may not be the man of your dreams. Sit back and see what happens. it will tell you a lot about his carachter depending on how he handles this.

Hardonraging

Ellsbells wrote: »

Ah look, its easier said than done, but leave him off at this stage. If he is scared by you telling him you like him after 4 months then he may not be the man of your dreams. Sit back and see what happens. it will tell you a lot about his carachter depending on how he handles this.

As always Ells is on the money here, just sit on your hands, see what he does and how he behaves / how his behaviour may have changed ..

LegacyUser

Well I guess I have my answer he called me during the week and was normal and there's been a handful of texts but nowhere near as much as usual and he was being slightly off with me over the texts.

Thought this guy was different and didn't think after 4 months of seeing someone telling them I liked them was a bad idea, especially considering he was doing all the chasing up until now.

Maybe that's it, now he knows there's no chase left the attraction has gone

dannyc31

dont beat yourself up about this OP. its not all men who are like this but alot are. its just a natural instinct in man to be out hunting and chasing. it tends to be something that dies off a little in men with age. not sure what age you both are but you seem quite young. if he is a man in his early 20's this is all only to be expected.

best advice i can give is either go for slightly older men or just with the next guy try your best to not get so intense in the early stages even if they guy seems to be pushing that way. its kinda a paradox but when a man is giving all these signals its mainly because his aim is to get you into bed. its kinda emotional manipulation but thats what men use to get women to sleep with them. theres a theory that if i woman has a period of time in her head that she gives before she sleeps with a guy, you should double down i.e if you normally sleep with a guy after 3 weeks of dating, make it 6 weeks. if he is anyway interested in more than just a sh*g he will hang in and stay keen, if not he will probably feel its not worth the effort and go for someone less hard to get into bed.

in most cases you have to think of men as more like dogs than people.

best of luck in the future

Lorna123

dannyc31 wrote: »

in most cases you have to think of men as more like dogs than people.

:D:D:D I laughed out loud when I read this.:D