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Do you ever feel like an outsider despite having lots of friends?

  • 09-10-2012 10:36pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi there. I have always had lots of friends from a young age and I am now 30. However there are times when I very much feel like an outsider, even amongst my groups of friends. I cant explain it. There has been a pattern over at least 15 years and I when I actually thought about I could list several examples of this like when I was at college etc. I think it might be connected to some sort of anxiety problem, which I experience occasionally. I also spend quite a lot of time on my own and there are times I dont want to speak or meet with people. This has been an an-going thing since I was around 14 years old I think.

    Does anyone else out there ever feel this way?

    Thanks


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  • #2
    SunnyDub1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,439 ✭✭✭SunnyDub1


    Yes I felt this way many of times. majority of people do IMO.
    I am no expert but from my own experience it sounds like it has a lot to do with anxiety.

    Sometimes I feel that my friends are paying me very little attention and leaving me out in certain situations etc, but reality is that I just over think things to much and take things to heart to much :o

    Put it this way, if they didn't want to be in your company or be your Friend at all they would make no time and effort what so ever.

    I also noticed as people grow older they become more self observed and have little or sometimes no time for anyone but them self. It's just the way life is.
    Everyone has days sometimes even weeks where they want time to them selves and not in the humor for seeing or talking to anyone. It's not just you.


  • #3
    Colonel Panic
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,040 ✭✭✭Colonel Panic


    I'm a pretty solitary person too. I have a lot of people I can hang out with, provided I do the legwork to arrange it but yeah, it often leaves me feeling like a bit of an outsider.

    I gave up going to get togethers with college friends because when I showed up, it felt like people treated me differently because I didn't keep in touch as much as everyone else. Ended up feeling miserable on those nights out when I should be having a great time catching up with people I knew for four years.


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