Love-life Advice Needed...

LegacyUser

Going un-reg for this. Rant time.

Basically, I feel like I'm an awful person right about now. For the last year or so, I was hung up on a guy that nothing ever really happened with but I fell in love with him and he said he felt the same. Took me about five months to realize he was just saying it all the time, and since I crossed that line I started seeing other guys again.

My family background isn't good, so since my teens I like having someone to support me and to rely on, so I generally end up in relationships.

Now I'm generally very loyal and looking for something more serious than a fling, but at the minute I have three guys on the go. I genuinely thought I liked them, but the fact that I'm feeling no remorse for the fact there's more than one is surely a problem... And before it's said, no, I'm not going behind their backs. They're aware, but all keen to take the step into a relationship. What do I do?

Since getting over this last guy, I can't seem to settle on any one person or let my feelings really develop for anyone new. I genuinely have no clue what to do here, I feel awful for the guys I'm seeing, mainly because I've never ever been unfaithful.

And please, I know how horrible a person I must seem, so don't slander me. I know it, and I feel terrible. I just really need some constructive advice.

Roisy7

Do you genuinely like any of them?

If you don't, let them all go. It's ok to by yourself and if you feel like you can't be single, you have to address why that it is.

Work on yourself or else you will continue to get hurt.

If it's fun for you and none of the guys mind, carry on. But I sense that it's not somehow.

FizzleSticks

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ConfusedBeyondBelief wrote: »

Going un-reg for this. Rant time.

Basically, I feel like I'm an awful person right about now. For the last year or so, I was hung up on a guy that nothing ever really happened with but I fell in love with him and he said he felt the same. Took me about five months to realize he was just saying it all the time, and since I crossed that line I started seeing other guys again.

My family background isn't good, so since my teens I like having someone to support me and to rely on, so I generally end up in relationships.

Now I'm generally very loyal and looking for something more serious than a fling, but at the minute I have three guys on the go. I genuinely thought I liked them, but the fact that I'm feeling no remorse for the fact there's more than one is surely a problem... And before it's said, no, I'm not going behind their backs. They're aware, but all keen to take the step into a relationship. What do I do?

Since getting over this last guy, I can't seem to settle on any one person or let my feelings really develop for anyone new. I genuinely have no clue what to do here, I feel awful for the guys I'm seeing, mainly because I've never ever been unfaithful.

And please, I know how horrible a person I must seem, so don't slander me. I know it, and I feel terrible. I just really need some constructive advice.

Let's be honest you've had your foundations shaken by this guy, you spent a year with him, and he messed you around, so now you're trust is shaken, you're content to see these three guy's as im sure you missed the physical side of the relationship, but you wont allow your self go any further for the moment.

Personally i dont see anything wrong here, you've made it clear to each guy where they stand and as long as everyone is safe and having fun there should be no issue what so ever ..

One thing i will say is 3 guy's maybe a bit complex, and inevitably you can expect drama some where along the way ...