does he like me?

sasha2012

met a guy a while ago, we spent some time together and got on brilliantly BUT he lives in UK, he'll be there for a couple of years anyway. So we talked a bit about keeping in touch, me going over there for example for a visit. Yet since he's gone back, he's gone cold. Ive text a couple of times and in fairness he responds back fine. I hadn't heard from him for a couple of weeks so text just to keep in touch...but the response times are getting longer and longer. I guess this means he just aint that interested? What to do next! HELP, i quite liked this chap and I know he liked me too. Maybe absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder after all!

Abi

It's seems to me that he enjoyed his time with you, but maybe long distance is not for him. I would let it fizzle out if he's leaving long periods of time between contact.

cats.life

sasha2012 wrote: »

met a guy a while ago, we spent some time together and got on brilliantly BUT he lives in UK, he'll be there for a couple of years anyway. So we talked a bit about keeping in touch, me going over there for example for a visit. Yet since he's gone back, he's gone cold. Ive text a couple of times and in fairness he responds back fine. I hadn't heard from him for a couple of weeks so text just to keep in touch...but the response times are getting longer and longer. I guess this means he just aint that interested? What to do next! HELP, i quite liked this chap and I know he liked me too. Maybe absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder after all!

this looks like all one sided , as in you text,n him.Does he have a job so he be busey to answer you. how did ye meet anyway if he is over the pond? i know the feeling op only to well ,the time that ye have spent together was really good and you said the good bye and thought things will be good eventhough he is miles away(this is what happenend to me) BUT guess what he had a girlfriend waiting for him at the other side, i hadnt aclue about his life in the uk, i was going to go over to visit but ther was some thing nagging at me to not to go and i was right cos a friend told me about the other one.. my thoughts would be get on with your life and if he wants to txt you let him, its hard to move on but this wont be the hardest thing that you will have to go through ok, as the saying goes there are plenty more fish in the sea (i hate that saying).

Merkin

If you haven't heard from him in a couple of weeks and you have to instigate contact then I don't think he is interested unfortunately. If he was keen he'd be making plans for a return visit asap.

Legaleagle123

sasha2012 wrote: »

met a guy a while ago, we spent some time together and got on brilliantly BUT he lives in UK, he'll be there for a couple of years anyway. So we talked a bit about keeping in touch, me going over there for example for a visit. Yet since he's gone back, he's gone cold. Ive text a couple of times and in fairness he responds back fine. I hadn't heard from him for a couple of weeks so text just to keep in touch...but the response times are getting longer and longer. I guess this means he just aint that interested? What to do next! HELP, i quite liked this chap and I know he liked me too. Maybe absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder after all!

I don't think he's interested. You should not text him again and see if contacts you and even then if he waits a long time to reply it doesn't look good.

Sorry to say it because I know it's s**t.

sasha2012

Thanks guys, I have to agree...best thing is to let it fizzle and if he wants to pick it up and initiate it again from his side then he can. I think the best rule of thumb is if you feel like your the one making all the effort then you are...and thats not right. And im still waiting for the reply to my text so I guess thats a strong indicator of no interest! I met him in Ireland he was here for holiday. He did travel to see me so that was effort made BUT i think @abi you are right..now that its more of an effort, long distance isnt for him. sorry to hear that cats.life, your better off without someone like that! Cheers guys.

cats.life

sasha2012 wrote: »

Thanks guys, I have to agree...best thing is to let it fizzle and if he wants to pick it up and initiate it again from his side then he can. I think the best rule of thumb is if you feel like your the one making all the effort then you are...and thats not right. And im still waiting for the reply to my text so I guess thats a strong indicator of no interest! I met him in Ireland he was here for holiday. He did travel to see me so that was effort made BUT i think @abi you are right..now that its more of an effort, long distance isnt for him. sorry to hear that cats.life, your better off without someone like that! Cheers guys.

dont be to down hearted op,he is not worth it,, i am now married with two kids , my man trouble happend while i was way younger.

sasha2012

cats.life wrote: »

dont be to down hearted op,he is not worth it,, i am now married with two kids , my man trouble happend while i was way younger.

Thanks cats.life, glad your happy and settled now!

AnonoBoy

He could quite easily like you.

But as you said yourself he's going to be in the UK for foreseeable future so perhaps he's just being realistic.

A long distance relationship is tough enough to maintain when the people have been together for a while before it turns long distance but it's a daunting task launching straight into a long distance relationship after just a short period of time.

sasha2012

AnonoBoy wrote: »

He could quite easily like you.

But as you said yourself he's going to be in the UK for foreseeable future so perhaps he's just being realistic.

A long distance relationship is tough enough to maintain when the people have been together for a while before it turns long distance but it's a daunting task launching straight into a long distance relationship after just a short period of time.

thats really true...not the best start to a relationship I guess!

ash23

Similar happened to me OP. He was in UK, I was here. We texted and emailed for a bit and made plans for me to come over but nothing ever really materialised. It fizzled out where I'd get the odd "howya" text from him and we'd chat but there was no intensity or promise in it anymore.

In time he met someone over there and a while after I met someone here. We're still friends and text occasionally but we're both really happy with our new partners.

The long distance works but I think only if there is a strong relationship there to start with. It's not really great as the starting point.
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