After first date, when to get in touch?

rui7

Hi,

I went on a first date recently, I thought it went well, we had a few drinks and chatted over a few hours, there was joking, talking, alot of eye contact etc. When we were saying goodbye I asked would she like to keep in touch and she said yes.

I txted her the next day with some general chat and she txt me back with some chat and questions. I replied to her questions but never asked any questions myself in my reply. That was 5 days ago and we have no contact since.

I want to ask her out on another date but wanted to wait a few days before I did that. Would 5 days be ok to ask her out on another date?

Thanks.

Ellsbells

Yep don't leave it any longer. She will think you are not that into her.

rui7

thanks for the reply Ellsbells. I was thinking because she didnt txt me back herself during the week that she wasnt interested in me. Suppose asking her on a 2nd date will prove that!

shampooman

Text her man! I've given up on the whole games thing and havent looked back since. If I like a girl I tell her straight and whatever happens happens. Main thing is dont over think it

rui7

Cheers shamps,

yeah I agree I really don't get the whole games thing. But then some people say if you are too eager you can look needy and desperate. Ye just can't win!

I guess there are women out there who arent into mind games either and will just accept a txt has it is and wont analyse how quick it was etc.

Merkin

I'd be getting the skids on sharpish if I were you. PHONE her and ask her out again.

rui7

hey merkin,

thanks for the advice. Why would you say phone over a txt? Is it that she'd have to talk to me (if she answers) whereas a txt can be left in the air.

Or would she appreciate a call more that a txt? We've only been txting/mailing in the past, no calls.

Legaleagle123

rui7 wrote: »

Hi,

I went on a first date recently, I thought it went well, we had a few drinks and chatted over a few hours, there was joking, talking, alot of eye contact etc. When we were saying goodbye I asked would she like to keep in touch and she said yes.

I txted her the next day with some general chat and she txt me back with some chat and questions. I replied to her questions but never asked any questions myself in my reply. That was 5 days ago and we have no contact since.

I want to ask her out on another date but wanted to wait a few days before I did that. Would 5 days be ok to ask her out on another date?

Thanks.

Go for it! She asked you questions so that shows interest. You probably should have kept the texting going a bit but go for it now, 5 days is enough time and she will think you are not into her if you leave it any longer.

Overheal

rui7 wrote: »

hey merkin,

thanks for the advice. Why would you say phone over a txt? Is it that she'd have to talk to me (if she answers) whereas a txt can be left in the air.

Or would she appreciate a call more that a txt? We've only been txting/mailing in the past, no calls.

Phone? Text? Now!~

tinkerbell

rui7 wrote: »

hey merkin,

thanks for the advice. Why would you say phone over a txt? Is it that she'd have to talk to me (if she answers) whereas a txt can be left in the air.

Or would she appreciate a call more that a txt? We've only been txting/mailing in the past, no calls.

What age are you OP? Phoning is for adults, texting is more for teenagers.

stargazer 68

rui7 wrote: »

Hi,

I txted her the next day with some general chat and she txt me back with some chat and questions. I replied to her questions but never asked any questions myself in my reply. That was 5 days ago and we have no contact since.

.

Well I would think you weren't interested OP. So pick up the phone now before someone else does!!!!

Stavro Mueller

Who the hell makes up these "rules"? 5 days is way too long in my book. I hope for your sake you've not blown it. If she agrees to go out with you again, for heavens sake behave like an adult and stop this messing.

Penny Dreadful

rui7 wrote: »

hey merkin,

thanks for the advice. Why would you say phone over a txt? Is it that she'd have to talk to me (if she answers) whereas a txt can be left in the air.

Or would she appreciate a call more that a txt? We've only been txting/mailing in the past, no calls.

Just pick up the phone and ask her out. .......arrgghhh all the over thinking kills so many potential relationships. Why would you want your text asking her out to be up in the air? Surely you want her to say yes
Ask her out, if she says yes then fantastic. If she says no then you put it down to experience and move on. If she says no because you called rather than texted then it wasn't worth it in the first place.

Merkin

rui7 wrote: »

hey merkin,

thanks for the advice. Why would you say phone over a txt? Is it that she'd have to talk to me (if she answers) whereas a txt can be left in the air.

Or would she appreciate a call more that a txt? We've only been txting/mailing in the past, no calls.

Sorry, just seeing this now. I said phone her simply because you have left it five longggg days and if you want to redeem yourself and show her that you are actually keen and would like to see her again then a phonecall will do that. Another text with "hey, how are you?" or something equally as ambiguous will just have her reaching for the delete button and/or blunt instrument so you need to pick up the phone at this stage m'dear!

Katgurl

Chri$t almighty, phone, text, email, pigeon carrier, whatever, just get in touch and not chit-chat straight out with the "would you like to go out again soon?"

I absolutely would not think you were interested I I were her. You need to make tracks.