What is wrong with me!

LegacyUser

Ok, I dont know what im feeling! Im 25 hate living at home. My job is ok, i feel like i will always be bottom of the pyramid there! But im afraid to leave! I want to move away with my boyfriend sooner rather than later but we dont know where to go that we will both get work! My friends often leave me outta things and when i tell them i am hurt by it they say I am being a drama queen. I have joined some groups in the evening to try make some more friends. I am sad all the time. My parents dont like me (seriously) they just make me feel like im in the way and give me no privacy. I am so down in the dumps all the time that i fear for myself, that i am going crazy! I just wanna be happy! But i feel like people just dont like me and i dunno what to do. Please dont tell me im paranoid or being an attention seeker. I just want advice.

Vores

If your job is "ok" that's a good place to start, focus on the things that you can look at more positively! In regards to your friends, if this is a regular thing I wouldn't concern myself with them too much to be honest. If you're not being included into plans, then surely it defeats the purpose of being friends with them? Friends are there to spend time with and have fun with, after all. With these evening groups you'll most likely find people there that you get along with and spend time with them, so I wouldn't worry about it too much, perhaps it's just a case of friends growing apart over time. Just in my opinion there's no "drama queen" about it, if your friends are leaving you out of things, that's going to hurt. They'd be hurt if they were left out of things too.

You really need to talk to your parents about how they're making you feel. Obviously I don't know your parents, but I'm sure it's not their intent to make you feel like they don't like you. Just try to talk calmly about how they've been making you feel, and explain that although that it is their house (trust me, parents love it when you respect that it's their house!), you would definitely appreciate some more privacy. Just try not to mention things in a way that could lead into an argument - which I'm sure wouldn't be your intent, but just be careful how you word certain things.

With feeling down in the dumps and being "sad all the time", I think this is where you need your boyfriend to step in! You obviously both love each other very much if you're planning on moving away together, so in my opinion there's no better person in your life to tell you how much you're loved, liked, and to put a smile on your face. Just talk with him about it, and tell him how you've been feeling lately and I'm sure he'll be able to spin things around and make you feel better. We all get our down moments every now and then, but it's the people around us that make us feel better if you ask me. (But just don't say "We need to talk" to him before the conversation, hearing that scares the hell out of us guys!)

I think this is an unfortunate case of everything hitting you at the same time. Because you've had a couple of things come up, if other things happen it might make it seem like a bigger ordeal. For example if it's something that you could usually brush off on your own, it might hit you harder if you've got a lot on your plate. If you talk to those around you and get a little reassurance, hopefully things will start to look a little better!

LegacyUser

Don't take this the wrong way, but at 25 and living at home, with a job, you probably are in your parents way.

That doesn't necessarily mean they don't like you. But you are old enough to have your own place by now and be looking after yourself.

You may get no privacy but it's their house. They don't have to give you any privacy. All the more reason to get out on your own.

It's very possible that this is just a tack they are taking to get you to get out in the world yourself. (My parents tried it with my brother. I've heard it from others too. It never seems to work, but parents seem to find it very hard to come out and tell their kids it's time to move out.)

How often are you being left out of things and how often do you bring it up? If it's a regular thing that you get left out, maybe you need new friends. If it's the odd thing (And by odd I mean once every few weeks) and you bring it up every time, you probably are being a drama queen. (I'm not judging, I just don't know the situation and it could be either.)

I think you are unhappy, <Mod Snip>. Your life is not where you imagined it would be by now and your hurting. And it makes it worse that everyone else is moving on with their lives and seem to be leaving you behind or wanting you to move on too. Things are hard and you can't retreat into the comfort of a past that no longer exists.

Maybe you should talk to someone who's not an anonymous voice on the internet about it.

woodchuck

If you hate living at home, but you have a job, then why not just move out?

With your friends; if they're always leaving you out of things then they don't really see you as a friend. If it's the odd thing every now and again I wouldn't worry about it. People don't always do everything as one big group, so it's naturally that everyone gets left out of the odd thing here and there.

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my advice is short and simple,your 25 it time to move out and make your own way,the rest will fall into place