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Do I try find her?

  • 26-09-2012 7:06pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi Guys,

    No long story behind this one so I'll get straight to it.

    I work in a bar, I'm a male btw, and the other night there was a group of people in, 4 lads and 2 girls all sat at the one table all evening drinking away. Naturally I assumed that by the law of averages that the girls were "with" the men. However over the course of the night one of the girls kept looking at me in "that" certain way. I just smiled away and continued with the work.

    At the end of the night when they were leaving one of the lads asks me my name and then says... "X this is Y, she's been eyeing you up all night but is too shy to say anything so I'm doing it for her". She did seem a little shy but we had a chat anyway and I suggested giving her my number so we could meet up and have a proper chat/date. Neither of us had our phones so I just wrote mine on a piece of paper and handed it over.

    Now the problem is she hasn't contacted me YET. I know there could be a wealth of reasons she hasn't been in touch...lost the piece of paper, no credit, couldn't read my writing, busy with work, not actually that interested etc.

    She seemed really nice and I was very attracted to her. She's not from my town and said she's not around here very often. So my question is do I leave it or try get her number from one of the lads who were there that night because I see them in fairly regularly? Or would that seem a bit overly desperate?


Comments

  • #2
    DangerMouse27
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 699 ✭✭✭DangerMouse27


    Yeah, do not ask one of the lads. He maybe intervened in a moment but that moment has passed. Its pretty desperate.

    Give it time as well. Your eager and brave to boot, im sure you would text within a day or so. Give her some time and if she doesnt, then keep the chin up coz she maybe thought better of it when sober.

    And for jaysus sake..swap numbers!!! Your listening to too much Carly ray Jepsen in that bar. Stick on some lynrd skynrd!

    Heres my number, so call me maybe! Do i want yours? God no, sure what would i be doing with that.


  • #3
    Lorna123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,116 ✭✭✭Lorna123


    She will come in again if she is interested. In the meantime she could have lost your number. I don't see any harm in mentioning her to one of these lads coming in e.g. "where's your friend today".....something like that. It doesn't have to be an enquiry as to why she didn't get in touch. There isn't much else you can do really but she might have been disappointed that you didn't take her number too and maybe she now feels a bit embarrassed about the whole thing. My guess is that she will come in again if she is interested.

    I also think you could get her number from these lads, why not. Afterall she was obviously saying how she found you attractive to them that night and you are only reacting to what she started. I see no harm in it at all. You have had some encouragement and it is not out of the blue that you decided to ask for her number..................so go for it.


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