An island

LegacyUser

I've based my self-worth on academic achievements most of my life. Now I'm in a profession which I enjoy, and earn a solid income from.
Day by day, am becoming more isolated though, and the joy I get from my job is no longer enough. Problems:
1- I work with the public all day, & it's a small town, so come the evening the prospect of a sanctuary at home (away from clients& not having to be constantly "on") generally wins out.
2- Most of the activities I enjoy (reading, swimming) are solitary.
3- Old pals have either emigrated or are married. New pals are generally attached(babies) or unattached(actively seeking partners)- both scenarios a bit intense
4- To return to postgraduate education in my field of work would involve a major financial investment which I can not afford at present, and ironically, would make me less employable than I am in my current position (jobs prestigious but positions few& generally based abroad).
5- I feel my personal life has stood still the last number of years, and though am fine with being single, feel it's a selfish& self-absorbed way of living, long-term. Though I know having an OH brings its' ups& downs, it must bring a certain element of personal fulfillment.

I don't really know what I'm asking but would appreciate advice.

nowyouresix

So, basically you have everything you worked very hard for, but no one to enjoy it with, and while you're now "there" ,you're starting to see life a little differently, and finally thinking about your happiness as opposed to your achievements?
You need a social network.
Is there any pursuit you like enough to join in a group with?? Like hillwalking, sailing....something that might bring you the crucial few miles away from where you are but close enough to socialise with the people you meet there??
Do you have a network of colleagues in an association or anything?? There surely would be some social events organised??
How about Toastmasters or Junior Chamber?? All very good for meeting people...

Best of luck