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Just thought of this and came to the conclusion that I'd ask to find out, how many people if any have met in person as a result of this lgbt thread and has anything good come of it?

Rick_

For me... 0%. Although there are some nice members on here I've chatted to for a while whom I'd like to meet as I think we'd get on well as friends or even more than that, but it just hasn't happened yet!

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do you think you's will ever meet then? like do you see yourself bringing it up in chat with them as such?

Aurongroove

I will one day get round to meeting perhaps Paddy in real life, and I've met a few others because of winding up at the same events as them or from attending meet ups from other forums.

but otherwise most of my conversations, PM's and suggestions of forum meet ups here have provided zilcho real life associates friends or other wise.

I think it;s because this forum might be a first frontier for most people, Anyone might have a boards account in every day life, and if I were coming out I'd know the LGBT forum is here. I'd probably use a new account, or a once off name to access it or something and away I go. I definitely wouldn't be in the meeting people mood though.

It's also hard to get people to travel to meet you just for friendship. Other site and other types of sites can be plastered head to foot with with vulgar stuff like "top looking for bottom" or "no time wasters!!" which more or less means if you're not definitely going to have sex the first time we meet, then I don't want to meet you.

In general the ratio for meeting in real life from forums is quite low, but this forum is especially low, and I suspect it's because of the type of members and the more relaxed atmosphere. on the other end of the scale you have the likes of gaydar and grindr, where the rate of meeting people can be quite a bit higher (but for a set of very limited reasons) and somewhere in the middle sites like Gaire, which is more of a forum-slash-classified.

coolperson05

I like this idea! There's no way to like set up a chat between us all is there? To overcome distance lol

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coolperson05 wrote: »

I like this idea! There's no way to like set up a chat between us all is there? To overcome distance lol

Well at the minute it'd be ya three lads and meself haha I say we need more girls to balance it out before then :P

Annasopra

Aurongroove wrote: »

I will one day get round to meeting perhaps Paddy in real life, and I've met a few others because of winding up at the same events as them or from attending meet ups from other forums.

but otherwise most of my conversations, PM's and suggestions of forum meet ups here have provided zilcho real life associates friends or other wise.

I think it;s because this forum might be a first frontier for most people, Anyone might have a boards account in every day life, and if I were coming out I'd know the LGBT forum is here. I'd probably use a new account, or a once off name to access it or something and away I go. I definitely wouldn't be in the meeting people mood though.

It's also hard to get people to travel to meet you just for friendship. Other site and other types of sites can be plastered head to foot with with vulgar stuff like "top looking for bottom" or "no time wasters!!" which more or less means if you're not definitely going to have sex the first time we meet, then I don't want to meet you.

In general the ratio for meeting in real life from forums is quite low, but this forum is especially low, and I suspect it's because of the type of members and the more relaxed atmosphere. on the other end of the scale you have the likes of gaydar and grindr, where the rate of meeting people can be quite a bit higher (but for a set of very limited reasons) and somewhere in the middle sites like Gaire, which is more of a forum-slash-classified.

the forum changes a lot from time to time. I think this forum is quite transient and maybe very serious - previously there were quite a lot of social meetings about 8/9 years ago. I wouldn't write off suggesting social events here. I organised a "queer beers" here about 3 years ago and about 15 people showed up. We also previously had a paintballing game with about 6 of us. I'm not in organising mood though. Anyone can take the initiative and organise a "queer beers" if they want to.

Rick_

Where's my comment gone to?

Aurongroove

that happens to me sometimes. You'd swear you've posted something since but it's no where to be found.

Then you start imagining the moderators deleted it in some sort of fantastic vendetta, but it's usually just some browser **** up. I sometimes tend to click "preview post" instead of "Submit reply" and without checking think "grand" then piss off and have a cuppa.

come back, no post.

Rick_

And now its back again....

Annasopra

Paddy C wrote: »

And now its back again....

Shoulda gone to specsavers

BigMikie145

maybe open a thread up for people to give a brief introduction of themselves such as- name, age, sex, sexuality, what there looking for, possibly where there from etc etc..

and also whether they're willing to meet up with other boards users. I think this would avoid the 'aaaah so would you like to meet up' moment in PM. At least this way people know that they want to meet up and the awkwardness is gone

Annasopra

BigMikie145 wrote: »

maybe open a thread up for people to give a brief introduction of themselves such as- name, age, sex, sexuality, what there looking for, possibly where there from etc etc..

and also whether they're willing to meet up with other boards users. I think this would avoid the 'aaaah so would you like to meet up' moment in PM. At least this way people know that they want to meet up and the awkwardness is gone

We don't allow personals but I will bump the thread you're looking for

BigMikie145

Sorry I dont follow. What do you mean you dont allow personals? Excuse if this is silly:P

Annasopra

BigMikie145 wrote: »

Sorry I dont follow. What do you mean you dont allow personals? Excuse if this is silly:P

Basically nothing like

I'm looking to hook up - anyone interested

hi guys genuine guy here would like to meet a guy that is top and <40

Hi There
Looking to meet some guy for friendship/relationship in the Cork and surrounding areas. If your interested just drop me a word.

BigMikie145

Ah I understand, thanks for that.

Love to see some more frequent users of this forum as I intend to use it a lot but it seems a tad dead at the moment.,

Aurongroove

it depends on how busy a forum is, I mean some forums have quite lively members but turn over of like a dozen messages in a week, others might have dull members, but you go to sleep and wake up the next day and your thread has vanished off the first page!

lemon_sherbert

Maybe there'd be scope for a private forum, geared at making friends, a bit like the Ladies Lounge, who have such a forum I think? Alternatively, I think it's just up to us to try and throw more topics out there for discussion, create a bit of conversation

Annasopra

lemon_sherbert wrote: »

Maybe there'd be scope for a private forum, geared at making friends, a bit like the Ladies Lounge, who have such a forum I think? Alternatively, I think it's just up to us to try and throw more topics out there for discussion, create a bit of conversation

More topics - good idea
Private forum - maybe but I'm not really convinced

keepkeyyellow

I met my housemate in first year of UCD on the UCD forum and he later happened to be gay, does that count?

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keepkeyyellow wrote: »

I met my housemate in first year of UCD on the UCD forum and he later happened to be gay, does that count?

Emm..sorta in a roundabout kinda way I guess! Actually nah haha cause its the wrong way round! :P