Gays and instability

toexpress

Over the past 13 months I have had a pretty crap situation with a person on a website hassling me. It has kind of come to a head in the last 36 hours, in pretty spectacular fashion in fact. Gardai and solicitors involved hours spent yesterday going through it all with the Gardai.

Last night a core group of my friends got together and we were chatting about it and as we chatted it became a clear that this, while an extreme case is not unusual and that there seems to be some very damaged gay men out there (seems less so within lesbians but then women are generally far more sensible anyway)

Have any of you guys experienced this sort of thing with a level of instability in gay men? Is it a leaning that is in us or is it just a small number of us?

ongarboy

This is a conversation I also had in the past with other gay friends about various LGBT people we have encountered on the scene or elsewhere that did seem a bit as you described in your post and wondered also is there a higher occurrence among some LGBTs. This is absolutely not about generalising and most certainly, we (or at least I) have come across equally or even more instability among many straight folk.

But the question did come up whether the more difficult social factors and obstacles that some LGBT people have encountered growing up or even as adults may have somehow affected them in they way they now deal with other people or carry on in their life (ie acting odd or worse).

I still think it's a tiny minority and maybe because some of us hang around with more LGBTs that straight people in our lives that maybe the opportunity presents itself more because of that. I know when I was single and on the dating scene, you did encounter some really strange people. Even now online (Boards included) you can get some very odd unsolicitied PMs from people that would make you question if they are the full shilling. Who knows, maybe people think I'm odd but it is an interesting thread you've opened, OP!

toexpress

I think I'm just a bit freaked out and sort of at a point where I am saying I will never leave the house again!

The doorbell goes I jump!

But I don't see this level of issue within my straight friends I never have but as I think about my gay ones we all admit to having our "stuff" and all of that. But what I am referring to I guess is the more crazy stuff

Annasopra

Locking this temporarily. I'm not sure if this thread is about the issue of whether lgbt people are unstable or if the thread is about toexpress's problems.