I don't want to be friends.

LegacyUser

Hello I need some advice.
I am in my late 20s and have a small group of friends from childhood. We are not close but still meet once or twice a year including a big Christmas party every year. Also the odd text, facebook etc. We all grew up in the same area so our families would still be in touch also. We are not best friends but still a meaningful if small part of each others lives.
Anyway one of my friends has a sister. She's a bit older than me and I never had anytime for her when we were kids. She's very difficult to be around and we don't click so to speak.
I won't write an essay blasting her on here.
Anyway she recently moved near me and wants to be my friend and I don't want to be friends, again I won't write an essay on why I feel this way.
(She knows other people in the town btw)
I make excuses not to hang out but She's not the type to take a hint and I don't want to be mean either. Plus she has had some mental health issues and as a result there's an unspoken rule among the group that no one upsets her. Her brother (my friend) has a very complicated relationship with her in that he finds it hard to be around her also but has a lot of guilt for feeling this way.
The last couple of times we met up she was there and latched on to me. She has no sense of boundaries and was basically in my face or on my shoulder the whole time - it's very claustrophopic and irritating.
So without rabbiting on any further, how can I remove this individual from my life without cutting out or isolating myself from my other friends? These meetups are only a couple of times a year but I look forward to them but now I'm considering just not going to the next ones.
I feel bad for feeling this way towards the woman but I don't want to be friends.

Merkin

Rather than being downright nasty to her, don't involve her in any facet of your life or encourage her or give her any information. By that I mean blocking her on Facebook, don't answer any calls or emails from her and don't agree to meet up with her or do anything "friendly" with her as this will just be misconstrued as encouragement. You don't need to be cruel in any way, simply don't have any dealings with her. She will soon get the message.

I agree with Merkin, just don't agree to do anything with her.

I don't want to sound like a bitch, but I'd avoid at all costs anything involving herself and any of your friends. I have a friend with a similar problem, and by the time she decided to just stop being nice to the person who was bothering her, they had made friends with her entire social circle. My friend lost a lot of her friends over this person.

tinkerbell

Just don't make yourself available to her. Block her on facebook or at if you feel bad for doing that, set her up as "restricted" so that she has limited access to your page. Don't reply to texts / emails. When you see her, just make small talk - don't go out of your way to be friendly and offering her information. If you have nothing to talk about, surely she's not dumb enough to not take the hint?

Roisy7

There's a new setting on Facebook that allows you have access to a certain number of people on chat. Basically, you appear offline to everyone apart from the people you want to talk to.

I would just be constantly "busy" when it comes to her. Don't feel like a bitch. She sounds exhausting and you're not being a cow, we all have our own stuff to deal with.

Don't avoid the rest of your group. Sounds like they know what she's like, and if at the next occasion just say, "Oh, I'm so busy, hardly have time to check emails/text people back." She'll soon get the message. I'm not being horrible but I was in a similar situation once and the person concerned wanted someone constantly on the other end of the line. When she realised I was unreliable in her eyes that was the end of it.

snafuk35

Politely cut contact with her completely and completely avoid her.
If that doesn't work and she seeks you out then get nasty and tell her what she can do with herself.