What exactly does complicated mean?

likeaboson

I was out with a group of friends recently at a party and I met this girl, we got on well chatted most of the night had a few drinks and had a good time. I didnt make any move on her that night but soon after we added eachother on fb and got to chatting. Eventually after chatting for awhile and some flirting I asked her if she would like to go out for a drink. She was apprehensive and said theings were complicated so not wanting to be pushy I suggested another time and we exchanged numbers

I'm wondering now if saying its complicated was just a nice way of refusing me but then again she did give me her number

Anyone have any idea's what this might mean or if I should ask her again in the future???

Ellsbells

I think it was a brush off but that she likes the attention. I would also think it means she has a bf.

Vicxas

Probably means she has a boyfriend, when people say its complicated they're usaully in the middle of a nasty row with their OH or they're seeing someone.

Also, like ells said it could be a massive attention grab so you'll chase her more.

I'd avoid her for the time being.

Abi

Vicxas wrote: »

Probably means she has a boyfriend, when people say its complicated they're usaully in the middle of a nasty row with their OH or they're seeing someone.

Also, like ells said it could be a massive attention grab so you'll chase her more.

I'd avoid her for the time being.

^This. Normally means theres some messy background there. Sounds to me shes still involved in something thats possibly a bit troubled, and shes looking for an ego boost. Steer clear I say.

likeaboson

Thanks for the advice everyone

I know from mutual friends that she doesn't have a BF but as you all said there could be something messy there!

decmanning

Definition of "its complicated" - i have an ex that im still sleeping with however we are not dating

dannyc31

it can mean lots of things including all mentioned above. but the main thing is you should take it as flashing red lights to stay away as you are likely to get involved in something messy from her side no matter what it happens to be. take it as a bullet dodged and go find a girl who says "yes i'd love to go on a date with you" when you ask her out for the first time.

we all have issues and baggage but you dont need to be dealing with them straight off the bat with someone which seems would be the case with this girl.

best of luck

LegacyUser

If she says things are complicated they probably are, it might not just be im interested in someone else/ seeing an ex again/ i've got a boyfriend, it could in fact be that she has problems at home and she just doesn't feel ready to start a relationship when she's got other problems.

But if i was you I wouldn't go rushing into things. I am seeing a person who has a few problems in life and things are "complicated". It's not easy at all, getting things to move forward is difficult. I wouldn't wish the feeling of not knowing what to do on anyone so my advice would to be take a step back and maybe start out as friends until you know what she means be "complicated".

Mc Kenzie

Complicated does not always mean its something bad or trouble. At the moment i am with a long distance relationship, they wil be gone for over a year and they are from outside the EU so i usuallt tell people its "complicated" for the sake of getting into the long story...Buts as other posters have said it usually means there is someone else in he back ground. So op, i would not get my hopes up here. IMO

likeaboson

Hi Everyone,

I asked her out again and we have already been on 3 dates

event

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056818752

is this her???