Lost in life

LegacyUser

Hi im writing this to get some insight or views on this.
Im in my late 20s I suffered from depression must my life, which lead me to have a sheltered life.I know you have to help yourself if you want a change. This year I had goals set to finally try to turn my life around but it all went wrong.
Relationship I had with someone did not work out.i applied for college but learned I would not get any grant or support leaving me back to square one.I can’t even afford the fees if I could.

I do see a psychiatrist at end every month who reviews my mood and medication .I done everything I could, I done some courses , im done some volunteering work .i don’t seem to have much friends as most of them have moved away or moved on and im still going nowhere in life.

Im on waiting list to see a psychologist, one part of me is thinking of getting myself sectioned as im finding it hard.im sorry if this seems drastic or selfish. The other night I sat in the dark crying to myself looking at how much of failure my life as become. I use the support lines which I find them helpful. Relationship wise I don’t bother with them as I feel worthless.

Help.

Buncha Fives

OP: Life can be very cruel and its not easy to keep going when every door you try to open gets slapped in your face. Your problems sounds fairly serious so if I could advise you to do one thing it is talk to the people closest to you; family and friends...a problem shared is a problem halved. Try and exercise as much as possible, anything to take your mind off things. This country is a really tough place to be upbeat place to be at the moment but its important that you know that you are not the only one who is in this position.

edellc

Hi OP yes life seems to have dealt you a tough one at the moment but it will get better, and you have to keep that in mind. So doors have been slammed when you tried to open them believe me I have been there, I like you wanted to go to college but was refused a grant as I had already done a college course straight after school and even though I never got a grant then (worked two jobs) I was still refused.

However I went another way round it, a bit of a cheeky way but still...exactly 156 days before the course was due to start I quit my job and signed on the dole then applied to college as a mature student and then when the course started applied for VETOS which states you have to be signing on for 156 days, which I was ....where there is a will there is a way and there is always a way even if it has a lot of obstacles in the way there is always a way

So college didnt work out this year, have a goal for next and you now know you will be refused a grant so use this time to save, if you dont have a job then get out there and look who cares what it is, its just until college starts next year and its just for money to pay for college, set that as your goal...even if your on the dole at the moment try save some of it each week while looking for something.....think your talking about going to university whereas I went back to a plc but if your unemployed I am sure you may be able to do a BTEA - back to education allowance scheme for university...something to check out and google

Do speak to a family member, your mam if you can or a sister, aunt or even a brother anyone that you are close to, let them help you.

Who do you live with OP, how happy is your living arrangements and can you speak to who you live with.

As for admitting yourself, it is a bit drastic but you know yourself if that is what you need right now and you have to listen to your body and mind even if it is a bit messed up at the minute, if this is what you think you need for a few weeks by all means do it but please speak to your psychiatrist first and a family member. Ultimately the decision is with you but please seek support making such decisions. Have you sought support groups in your local area, are there any??

The only thing I want to say is for you to forget about a relationship at the minute as you can not make someone else happy if you are not, you need to concentrate on you and getting yourself well and once you focus on you and stop looking for a relationship then mr right will land on your door step, believe me it always happens that way, so for now be happy being single and focus on your health, physical and mental....and yes exercise too, go for a run or fast walk leave the demons behind, you know all this is hard but you also know it needs to be done

best of luck op , sending well wishes and hugs x

LegacyUser

Hi thank you for your replies.

I don't work at the moment and i still live at home that would be another reason why i would not bother with a relationship,im sure if i told someone my situation they laugh at me.i know its more common situation now with the recession.


One my parents know and they give me my privacy which is good.I tried the education allowance but i was not entitled to it due to a complicated issue.i am thinking going back to a support group which gives me a chance to get out of house etc.

Anyways thank you for your post it was most helpful.i know i done everything,im just hard on myself.