Should I ask her out

micar

Hi

I was out at a work night out last Friday. One of the girls from a different department was out. She's pretty cute!!!!

She's fairly new in the company whereas I'd be there almost 6 years. For work, I'd would e-mail her section to get them to do some work for me. Anyway, got chatting to her at the bar for a short period of time and I told her who I was. She mentioned something about me looking very different to what she expected. Not sure if that's good or not!!!!She knew the name but not the face. It would been the same for me. I would have noticed her around the office.

Was chatting to one of the guys near the dance floor and was telling him what I thought of her. She was behind us in a different group dancing but was making her way towards us. Me, like an moron, kept turning around to take a look at her.

As she's fairly new in the company. I though she'd be straight out of college. That put me off making a move as I'd be in my early 30's. Found out that she'll actually older than I thought, ,maybe 28.

Have no idea if she's single or not.

How do I subtly ask her out?

Micar

a fat guy

Start hanging out more at work and just build it from there!

Small steps!

Ellsbells

Whoa horsie.... You don't even know if she is single. Get to know her better and see what the lay of the land is. If it were me I would not want to get involved with anyone in a new job.

LegacyUser

OP normally I'd say ask her out but in this case you don't know if she's interested in you and you don't know if she's actually single. Added to that the work situation complicates things especially if she's new. If she's only starting in the company, she's probably going to be weary of how it'll look to her colleagues if she was theoretically to start dating you.

I'd wait it out a bit OP, try get to know her a bit better, flirt a bit, at least until you suss out if she's actually single and if she has any romantic interest in you. I don't think it's appropriate to go in all guns blazing in this scenario.

micar

Hi

Thanks for the advice.

I work for a large company which is not in the city centre. We seldom as a company socialise together. I 'd even seldom see her during the day. Maybe in the canteen or going through the office. I only know the people in her section to say hello.

We work for the same company but don't work together. My previous girlfriend was the same. We got together while working for the same company (am longer in the that company). Again, we did not work together. We never had any issues with it. In fact, it was pretty exciting keeping it a secret.

Micar

Roisy7

You could add her on Facebook perhaps? You've socialised so it would hardly be a massive breach of etiquette. And you might find out whether she is single or not.

Obv it's not a very concrete way of getting to know someone but it's a start?

Lorna123

I would say that if this woman likes you too she will find a way of bumping into you. At the moment though she is trying to get acquainted with the work so give it more time. There will be plenty of opportunities in the next couple of months and Christmas is only 3 months away, plenty of outings then. Don't rush into anything right now. You will get your chance.