Jailed for a year - would you let your OH 'see' other people?

discus

Right AH - imagine you've been jailed for 3 years. You're in a long term relationship and your partner supports you and wants to stay with you. Would you let them have a bit of sex on the side until you get out?

I dunno how I feel, I think would wait if it was herself doing time! Not sure if I'd like to be behind bars knowing she's being rattled by someone!

Sunnyisland

Hypothetically No and I am sure it would wreck your mind knowing she did sleep with someone else.Also think I would trust a woman to wait more than a man.

Shryke

You say a year and then 3. It doesn't matter anyway, she's going to have sex with or without your permission. I think count yourself lucky if you still have a partner after a few years in prison and don't ask questions, but I'm pretty cynical when it comes to humanity.

mattjack

Are you or your OH in a bit of trouble ?

hatrickpatrick

Nah, my practically universal rule about this is, if you're going to screw someone else, you have a moral obligation to actually break up with your current partner - and do this before you get with anyone else.

Ronin247

discus wrote: »

Right AH - imagine you've been jailed for 3 years. You're in a long term relationship and your partner supports you and wants to stay with you. Would you let them have a bit of sex on the side until you get out?

I dunno how I feel, I think would wait if it was herself doing time! Not sure if I'd like to be behind bars knowing she's being rattled by someone!

If she wants to, she will, and it isnt up to you to "let" her.Do you think when your cell mate makes you his bitch he will care if she approves or not? He will have you tossing his salad and you will be glad to.

cloud493

It would depend on the severity of the crime I had committed.

Ghandee

You'll prob end up having sex in jail too OP (consensual or not)
For that reason, I'd say tell her to tear away!

SuperInfinity

Ghandee wrote: »

You'll prob end up having sex in jail too OP (consensual or not)

Probably? I think it's quite a rare occurrance... wow... even with chrome underlining the misspellings I still can't spell that word. >_< ....it's more of an urban myth. You can't be punished twice or given "cruel or unusual punishment", and I think there is too much joking going around about it. Rape is never funny.

I would let her do what she wants and hope she's still there when you come out.

Ted_YNWA

It would depend if she would let me get my end away with my cellmate

zenno

discus wrote: »

Right AH - imagine you've been jailed for 3 years. You're in a long term relationship and your partner supports you and wants to stay with you. Would you let them have a bit of sex on the side until you get out?

I dunno how I feel, I think would wait if it was herself doing time! Not sure if I'd like to be behind bars knowing she's being rattled by someone!

If i got locked up for 3 years i would do the sensible thing and tell her to move on with her life and look for a new relationship. I wouldn't want to spend 3 years in a prison thinking of her as i would go insane. I would just break the connection with her then and there and tell her to move on and get on with her life without me, why let her suffer and wait for you for 3 years, end it and carry on would be my way of dealing with it.

girl in the striped socks

No.
He has two hands & I have some good porn.

The Big Red Button

discus wrote: »

Right AH - imagine you've been jailed for 3 years. You're in a long term relationship and your partner supports you and wants to stay with you. Would you let them have a bit of sex on the side until you get out?

I dunno how I feel, I think would wait if it was herself doing time! Not sure if I'd like to be behind bars knowing she's being rattled by someone!

The bolded phrase is the iffy bit. If the person I was with did something bad enough to end up being jailed, I seriously cannot imagine supporting them and wanting any more to do with them, unless in very exceptional circumstances.

And therefore I would absolutely expect the exact same in return. If I broke the law, if I did something that resulted in me ending up in jail, I wouldn't expect the relationship to continue.

Anyways, if the relationship was going to continue, hell no, cheating wouldn't be acceptable! Whether I was the person in jail or the partner outside. Either we'd break up, or stay together properly, in a faithful relationship.

I'm not entirely against the idea of an open relationship, to be honest. But when one person is locked up in jail, it's not the right time to be experimenting with that sort of thing.

Ice87

No....Not much she can do when she's chopped up.

oppenheimer1

chatterpillar wrote: »

The bolded phrase is the iffy bit. If the person I was with did something bad enough to end up being jailed, I seriously cannot imagine supporting them and wanting any more to do with them, unless in very exceptional circumstances.

And therefore I would absolutely expect the exact same in return. If I broke the law, if I did something that resulted in me ending up in jail, I wouldn't expect the relationship to continue.

Anyways, if the relationship was going to continue, hell no, cheating wouldn't be acceptable! Whether I was the person in jail or the partner outside. Either we'd break up, or stay together properly, in a faithful relationship.

I'm not entirely against the idea of an open relationship, to be honest. But when one person is locked up in jail, it's not the right time to be experimenting with that sort of thing.

What if they were part of crack commando unit that was sent to prison by a military court for a crime they didn't commit?

discus

mattjack wrote: »

Are you or your OH in a bit of trouble ?

No no, thank god! We're long distance for a start, and I tend to be unable to see her for months at a time with work anyway - really hard on each other sometimes

B.A._Baracus

... hell no.
You are not right in the head if you allow your other half to sleep with someone else.

discus

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

... hell no.
You are not right in the head if you allow your other half to sleep with someone else.

Many wouldn't agree BA!

B.A._Baracus

discus wrote: »

Many wouldn't agree BA!

If two people wanna allow each other to do that. Each to their own.

For me, I just think its mental. Its something I could never, ever do & personally cant understand how watching the person you love have sex with someone else could be a turn on ... in fact, it would crush me.

Light Switch

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

If two people wanna allow each other to do that. Each to their own.

For me, I just think its mental. Its something I could never, ever do & personally cant understand how watching the person you love have sex with someone else could be a turn on ... in fact, it would crush me.

Same here



Anyway what if I was in jail because I killed my OH?

Richard Dower

That's what vibrators are for.

girl2

discus wrote: »

Right AH - imagine you've been jailed for 3 years. You're in a long term relationship and your partner supports you and wants to stay with you. Would you let them have a bit of sex on the side until you get out?

I dunno how I feel, I think would wait if it was herself doing time! Not sure if I'd like to be behind bars knowing she's being rattled by someone!

No. Whats wrong with your head? There will be no bits on the side. End of.

Thats it.

Mind you............

Vicar in a tutu

No wouldnt like that:pac: anyway if you had that agreement then your obviously not as mad about the person as you should be... that's only my opinion tho:pac:

DEFTLEFTHAND

We should introduce Conjugal visits in Irish prisons. All this pent up sexual frustration must drive prisoners crazy.

christ on a bike!

If I was married then no. It would just killed me.
If I wasn't married and was going to jail I would break up with her whether she wanted or not, for her

[Jackass]

discus wrote: »

No no, thank god! We're long distance for a start, and I tend to be unable to see her for months at a time with work anyway - really hard on each other sometimes

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

... hell no.
You are not right in the head if you allow your other half to sleep with someone else.

discus wrote: »

Many wouldn't agree BA!

OP, you're in serious trouble if this is the line of excuse you're looking to take when you break it to the misses that you slept with someone else!

"WHAT IF I WAS IN JAIL! I'D LET YOU DO IT, SO WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE?? DON'T LOOK AT ME LIKE THAT, THE INTERNET AGREES WITH ME!!!"

/forever alone.

jessiejam

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

We should introduce Conjugal visits in Irish prisons. All this pent up sexual frustration must drive prisoners crazy.

I totally disagree with this quote, sorry. I don't think prisoners should have half of what they already do. Sky tv, games consoles, games rooms etc. What a joke. As for conjugal visits... use your hand.

No wonder there is so many re-offenders. Prison should be hard graft where you serve your time.
I also think the worst crimes should get the least privileges.

Anyway sorry deftlefthand... i'm kinda gone off on a tangent.:o
TBH if I was going to prison for 3 years I would split up with my OH let them do what they have to do. If they are around when I come out all the better.

Tweedle Dumb

discus wrote: »

No no, thank god! We're long distance for a start, and I tend to be unable to see her for months at a time with work anyway - really hard on each other sometimes

I wouldn't worry bout jail. What if she thinks months is to long and is 'seeing' her thoughtful friend Paul, who is a good listener and just a good friend who is there for her?

As for myself,with my clumsiness for dropping things,I'd be having some, why shouldn't she?

Cee-Jay-Cee

It's not a case of 'allowing' her to have sex with someone else, I would hope she wouldn't want to. I know my OH wouldn't stray.

cloptrop

Pimp her out while your inside . you a gangster now .