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INTIMIDATING NEIGHBOURS

  • 07-09-2012 8:30am
    #1
    onelove5
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭


    I am experiencing this problem at the moment and finding it extremely stressfull. Shouting & banging and cars coming and going at all times of the night. They have baby twins that scream a lot of the time and a vicious dog that they leave out to wander around the estate at night. This dog made a dash at my son and I when we were trying to get in to our house on 2 separate occassions. My marraige broke up this year and my son and I have been struggling to get through it all and are also struggling due to wage cuts etc, feeling very low about it all. The landlord has been in on a few separate occassions and has told him he wants them out as soon as their paid time is up - god I hope he does get them out. My son kicked his ball into their garden yesterday by accident and when I asked if they would throw it back over they kicked a huge fuss and spent the night shouting amongst themselves about how I stole their childrens ball and will they go and get it back. I was terrified they would come round. At wit's end.


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  • #2
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Hey there,

    I've given you your own thread. In PI we work to a one-thread/one-poster rule and would ask that posters don't bump old threads or hi-jack anyone elses thread.

    Cheers.


  • #3
    onelove5
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭onelove5


    Sorry didn't mean to - first post - a real newbie. Thanks for help.


  • #4
    looksee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,444 ✭✭✭✭looksee


    Hi OP, life has been a bit rough for you recently, and inevitably you are feeling stressed. This often leads to 'counting up' hassles mentally and being overwhelmed by them, its understandable, but it makes for a lot more distress than is really necessary.

    First you have to separate your own problems from the ones being caused by the neighbours. Your own problems are causing you stress and to feel a bit fragile. That is natural, but it is not anything to do with your neighbours.

    The cars coming and going - well that happens, it can't be helped. They could be a bit quieter about it but people are not always considerate. No doubt another neighbour will point out to them the issues if it continues.

    The dog, again a problem for everyone on the estate. Have you contacted the dog warden?

    The twins - well sadly not a lot can be done about crying babies, unless you feel there are care issues, but it sounds as though they are just doing what babies do.

    The banging and shouting, and the business with the ball - yes that is antisocial, and it sounds as though the landlord is doing what he can. In the meantime can you move into a back bedroom or one away from the party wall? Ask your son to play in the garden, take him to the park, at least ask him not to play ball where it might go in their garden.

    Can you see what I am saying? Cumulatively these issues are stressing you at a time when you are already stressed. Try not to add them up into one huge issue. Hopefully they will be gone soon and life will return to normal. Keep after the landlord, and if anyone else around has issues, ask them to contact the landlord as well.

    Good luck, and take care, you will get your life back onto an even keel :D


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