She wants to go to Australia for 6 months

LegacyUser

Hi all,

I have been with my GF for 4 years since I was 19. We have had our ups and downs but in general we are a good couple. We had some trouble lately but we are getting over it. Last night she told me she wants to go to Australia with her friends for 6 months. For work reasons I cannot go (have a contract signed and it would really hurt my career). She told me she wants me in her future and I want her in mine. But I don’t know if I can survive being a full 6 months apart? If she went there I would probably save up and come visit 3 months through. But then again, there is also a chance she might like it and want to stay. She is adamant she only wants to go for 6 months and come home. The last thing I want to do is obstruct her dream of going away, and when she told me I held a brave face for her. But I was really scared inside.

I am just scared it won’t work being away that long. Has anyone been in a similar situation?

Ellsbells

Ah op try not to worry. 6 months is very do-able and as you said you can go over 3 months in.

Not everyone likes oz and as you know the worst going you can do is try to stop her.

It's ok to worry about it but don't let it drive a wedge between you.

Gooner111

Hey OP.

6 months isn't really that long a period. If she doesn't come back after that you can deal with it then. Don't worry about what ifs right now. She has a great opportunity so should encourage her. You's can talk/text regularly etc. It will be hard and you will be lonely but will cope. If you can save and get some time from work to go over for a little while then you should do - would be great experience for you too. But ask her first given she is away with her friends they might not want boyfriends tagging along.

If you discourage her she could end up resenting you for holding her back. You's aren't breaking up and will talk regularly so keep your brave face on and be happy for her.

Remember 6 months isn't really all that long. You can conentrate on your job and I also suggest that you join a gym or club or something. That way after work you will have some activities to do and keep you distracted - less moping around missing her/feeling lonely. Plus it will let you build up yourself which will be good in the long run.

HeyThereDeliah

Hi op
This could be the best thing for you and your Gf six months is nothing at all but one suggestion and I know you will not like it maybe use this time to have a break ye are both so young and together from a young age so it could be good for ye in the long run.
It's a one time experience for her and I'm sure you want her to enjoy it and don't forget absence makes the heart grow fonder she could be very homesick After the first month is over.

AnonoBoy

At your age 6 months might seem like a long time but it's not really.

If ye can't survive 6 months apart (with Skype, email etc.) then it's not meant to be anyways.

It's one of those occasions in life when you've got to just grin and bear it.

Chances are she'll be back. But if she's not then you have to weigh up the options of going out to her or staying behind.

solerina

My friend was with her boyfriend (now husband) for 5 months when he went off to OZ for a year (he had it all booked just before he met her)...anyway she went over to visit him half way through like you are planning....its not easy but its certainly possible for ye to get through this !!

Princess Peach

I'm away for this whole year, my boyfriend came to visit after 7 months. Its hard, but if you make the effort and really want to make it work, you can.

This could be really great for her. I think you should encourage her to go, but do tell her your fears. Being far apart makes is so important to talk about these things, just so ye can talk it out and hopefully feel better.

As for her wanting to stay on, who knows what could happen. Whether she stays or goes you can't really predict the future like that. I'd say give the relationship a go for the 6 moths, and if she does change her mind then re-evaluate things.

But for now trust in the great relationship you two have.

sashafierce

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jimbo79

ECig wrote: »

Hi all,

I have been with my GF for 4 years since I was 19. We have had our ups and downs but in general we are a good couple. We had some trouble lately but we are getting over it. Last night she told me she wants to go to Australia with her friends for 6 months. For work reasons I cannot go (have a contract signed and it would really hurt my career). She told me she wants me in her future and I want her in mine. But I don’t know if I can survive being a full 6 months apart? If she went there I would probably save up and come visit 3 months through. But then again, there is also a chance she might like it and want to stay. She is adamant she only wants to go for 6 months and come home. The last thing I want to do is obstruct her dream of going away, and when she told me I held a brave face for her. But I was really scared inside.

I am just scared it won’t work being away that long. Has anyone been in a similar situation?

might not be the best thing if ye have had some trouble recently, it sounds a bit like she is running away, i can only speak for myself but in that situation i would just hand her the p45 and let her off