Relationship question - College/School gap - yes or no?

pm123

I'm 20 and in college (third year) and I'm in a drama club and we're doing this play at the moment. There's this girl I like but I found out that she's 17 and she's in sixth year in secondary school at the moment... Haven't really talked to her that much but I really like her and we have a lot in common with the drama interest and music etc... Should I abandon the idea of ever being with her because of the college/school gap or what should I do? For the record I've never been in any kind of relationship before, and don't have much experience in this area

blatantrereg

Dont see any harm in it myself.

She's over 17, so there's no legal problems there and a 3 year gap isn't massive really. Go for it.

Juicyfruit

I'd agree with above OP - don't see anything wrong with it at all. Go for it!

pm123

thanks guys! :cool:

pm123

How would this work though - is it not a bad time for her to start going out with someone? Would she have enough time what with her doing the LC and all...

If she wants it to happen, then she'll find time. It would be important to remember that next May/June she'll be going through something extremely stressful, so you might need to take a step back and not add anything.

GoldFour4

How long is your course OP ? And how far away from her school is your college ?

Honestly it depends on her commitment to a potential relationship. Personally the gap would be too much for me.

pm123

I'm in my final year of college and she's in her final year of school. I'm finished college in May of next year... Her school is about 20mins away from my college...

Honestly I have to get to know her well first, just wondering about the logistics of the whole thing before I get involved... Can't stop thinking about her though, and I hardly know her! :-(

There shouldn't be any logistics per se. The only slight downside is that she won't be able to go out with you properly, as she's still under the legal drinking age, but that's not a massive problem either. Get to know her first though, then see how things go. Just know there shouldn't be any barriers, get to know her over time and let it happen naturally.

blatantrereg

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The only slight downside is that she won't be able to go out with you properly, as she's still under the legal drinking age, but that's not a massive problem either. Get to know her first though, then see how things go.

I dont think it's a good idea to equate going out properly with drinking alcohol or going to clubs. Lots of stuff you can do outside of those things; lots of stuff that make better dates than pubs and clubs tbh.

blatantrereg

blatantrereg wrote: »

I dont think it's a good idea to equate going out properly with drinking alcohol or going to clubs. Lots of stuff you can do outside of those things; lots of stuff that make better dates than pubs and clubs tbh.

I didn't exactly mean drinking - a lot of things that I would normally bring people to would be in pubs, be they comedians, gigs, and on the odd occasion, movie screenings. She wouldn't be able to go to these, as a lot of them are for over 18s only. That's the only barrier that exists and it's an entirely minor one.

pm123

I don't drink, I don't go out to clubs or anything, I'm more of an introvert. I'd say it'll be a lot of theatre going, cinema, that type of thing so no worries there. Obviously I'm not opposed to going out and i have been 'out' but it's certainly not top of my list..

lowly26

the age gape between 17 and 20 is nothing i say go for it,

as for the fact your in collage and she is in 6th year, when i was in 6th year i was 18 and in a relationship with a guy of 23 and he had already finished collage and was working , it didnt matter if you want to make it work it will

good luck hope everything works out for you:)