Breaking up with someone you love

LegacyUser

My girlfriend has treated me very badly the past few weeks. To the point where I have to break up with her.

The only problem is that I love her deeply.

How do you break up with someone you love?

There is no way back for our relationship, but I'm still in love with her and will miss her terribly (we live together and she has a child who also lives with us).

It's going to be messy and I'm scared of facing it. I know I have to do it, so how do I go about it?

SineadMarie

What has happened that you feel there is no going back? Maybe sit down and talk to her, explain how your feeling see if you can get through this. If you really can't then maybe its for the best. I'm very sorry to her of your situation, it cant be easy.

There is no easy answer to this, hell, there might not even be an answer as such, because every single person is different. The hardest part is admitting that the relationship is broken and that there is no return, so you've done this. It's more just getting the courage to actually face it, which shouldn't be harder than the realization.

The only way to do it is to just do it. Vague, I know, but it's true. You just have to end it; I can't tell you how, or when or where, because that'll be your decision, one you need to make yourself, though it seems like you already have?

Ellsbells

But op if she has treated you so badly surely it won't be a shock to her.

I would have myself set up - bags packed, place to move to and calmly explain why it's over and that there is no going back.

LegacyUser

Ok things are even worse today. We had an argument last night and my girlfriend was very stressed (as was I).

She said she felt like dying.

She has tried to kill herself twice before, and almost succeeded the second time.

I'm afraid if I break up with her that it will cause her to do something drastic.

How can I get out of this safely?

I'm very worried for her child too. It would ruin my life and hers if her mother did something like this.

The stress is unbearable.

Ellsbells

Talk to her family and tell them what's going on. You can't stay because of what she might do.

It's up to her family to take over now

LegacyUser

Ellsbells wrote: »

Talk to her family and tell them what's going on. You can't stay because of what she might do.

It's up to her family to take over now

Tbh, her family are useless.

Her Dad is an alcoholic and her mum is too busy with her boyfriends to care about her.

She has some good friends but they do not live near to us.

I feel trapped

SineadMarie

If she’s suicidal she needs professional help, talk to her friends and family ensure they help her get it and if this is causing you this much stress and anxiety you’re better off away from the situation