Should I dump my girlfriend of 5 years

cruder

Hi all,

jellygems

there are so many red flags i dont know where to begin but say run run as fast as you can!! do not look back

cruder

do you think she is cheating?

jellygems

i have no idea but i mean how many lies is that lie thats gone to far??

do u want to be with someone u cant trust?

Piliger

cruder wrote: »

I know you must be thinking im an easy touch, but when your really in love with someone it can be very difficult to let go.
Thanks for listening,
Any comments are more than welcome.

Hi OP. I don't know what 'easy touch' has to do with anything. After 4 years I am pretty shocked how little you knew about her and her family to be honest.
On that basis alone I would say that this relationship appears to have gone it's course. I would simply ask you if this quality relationship is all you aspire to ? I mean there are oodles of lovely ladies out there who will live close to you and be far more open and attentive to you.

cruder

Yes of course I do, but the lies about her family that she told me were said before we started seeing eachother, you see we met on a night out then kept in touch for a year before going out as a couple, so in that way she told me she said those things because she never thought we would end up in a long term relationship.

jellygems

cruder wrote: »

Yes of course I do, but the lies about her family that she told me were said before we started seeing eachother, you see we met on a night out then kept in touch for a year before going out as a couple, so in that way she told me she said those things because she never thought we would end up in a long term relationship.

doesnt matter shes still a liar

Ellsbells

Did you say she has disowned her own son and said he was dead?

She lied to you about the fact she was pregnant with your child twice??? Deal over!!

cruder

yes she did, that was before I started seeing her, but when we started seeing each other properly she still kept up the lie

Ellsbells

cruder wrote: »

yes she did, that was before I started seeing her, but when we started seeing each other properly she still kept up the lie

And you don't think this is a deal breaker?

cruder

It is I suppose, I know I should end it with her but finding it very difficult. The reason why she lied over her son was because he was a drug addict and was embaressed. And she told me he had died before we started going out properly and didnt know how to tell me the truth afterwards.

Ellsbells

Come on....

Even giving her that one ye have monstrous communication and trust issues. Sounds like you won't dump her so best of luck.

Piliger

cruder wrote: »

It is I suppose, I know I should end it with her but finding it very difficult. The reason why she lied over her son was because he was a drug addict and was embaressed. And she told me he had died before we started going out properly and didnt know how to tell me the truth afterwards.

It happens. I don't see that as the biggest deal to be honest. People have baggage that can be seriously difficult to deal with, and people without it never really understand that. I would be far more concerned about the other issues, which in my view tell me that on the whole you would be better reassessing this quality of relationship.

Meauldsegosha

OP I can understand why she lied to you about her son and brother, we all have family members we are embarrassed about. Lying to you twice that she was pregnant is something I can't understand but I can't understand why any woman would lie about something like that. For me that would be unforgivable.

cruder

She was pregnant but had miss carriages, and never said she did and continued on and never told me about them until I put 1 and 2 together

ibarelycare

Did she introduce you to her mother as her boyfriend? Do you know/hang out with her friends or any of the rest of her family? Or her work colleagues? Why have you never stayed in her house?

Have you ever considered that she might live two separate lives, and maybe she has a family/another boyfriend?

Gooner111

I had typed something out but connection failed and lost it....

The sex text... wouldn't believe a word of what she said.
The miscarriages.... you have my sympathy but at this point not sure I'd believe she was ever pregnant
The family..... she should have come clean and been honest at some point. Your together 5 years

If you want to stay with her then talk to her and clear up all the issues. See if you can start again.

BUT I think you should cut your losses right now!!. She has issues and your getting messed about and how could you trust her again ever. End things, try move on with your own life and hopefully you will find someone who treats you properly and wants the same things you do.