Suspisious Behaviour

LegacyUser

Was out with my boyfriend during the week ive been going out with him for the past three months
Both of us had a few drinks in us so we were drunk so to speak and the rest of the night is a blur

The next morning we went to lunch with two of my friends so as the four of us were chatting his phone started to ring he didnt answer it and when i asked who it was he became reserved and said he wasnt sure maybe it could be his aunt.

He then deleted all his call history on his phone and put his phone on silent for the rest of the day... as my friends live away from us we had a 2 hour drive and during this i found him to be very withdrawn and not his usual happy self and wasnt engaging in conversation as much as he would me

Am i being paranoid or should i be worried since he deleted all call history and his mood changed

Is there another woman?

Daisy M

I think your jumping the gun a bit. There could literally be any number of reasons he didn't feel comfortable answering his phone in front of people. There may be an issue going on with family/friends you don't know about. It could have been a call about an unpaid bill or from someone he just doesn't want to talk to.

Why did you mention been out the night before and been drunk, what difference could this make?

Ellsbells

Maybe he was annoyed you were questioning who was calling him. Tbh it's none of your business and would annoy me especially if said in an accusatory tone.

Juicyfruit

Surely he was just being polite by not answering his phone in company!

I wouldn't even ask my fiance who was ringing him and we're together over 5 years!

I'd say that he's annoyed about you asking him tbh!

Think you might be making something out of nothing op.

LegacyUser

op here yeah maybe im just jumping to conclusions but his strange behaviour has made me question is he on some sort of narcotics should i ask him is he taking anything

Ellsbells

What strange behaviour exactly? Deleting his call history??? I do that every couple of days and have nothing to hide.

Op you sound like you are looking for problems and more than a little paranoid. If you don't trust him then move on

Meauldsegosha

So he was a bit quiet after a night on the drink, didn't answer a phone call and you think he is on drugs. OP you need to grow up and have a bit of cop on. You are seeing problems were there are none.

Arawn

The only way you'd know if he deleted call history is if you went through his phone...

invinciblePRSTV

Sounds like you're the one on drugs of the herbal variety OP given your excessive paranoia about your BF's rudimentary actions.

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Toast4532

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

So he was a bit quiet after a night on the drink, didn't answer a phone call and you think he is on drugs. OP you need to grow up and have a bit of cop on. You are seeing problems were there are none.

I have to agree with this.

OP I don't know what gave you those ideas but you seriously to reign in your imagination.

You seem very paranoid and insecure, do you trust your bf? If you don't then to be honest you really have much of a relationship as most relationships are built on trust so you really need to be able to trust him.

If you don't trust him, why don't you trust him? Has he ever given you any reasons not to trust him? Were you hurt in a previous relationship which has maybe left you with trust issues?

If you have issues with trust, insecurities and paranoia (and it sounds like you do) you should really address them ASAP (maybe counselling etc), because if you don't you will push every guy away as very few guys will put up with those issues long-term.

Gooner111

The OP knows this chap 3 months and while not a lot of time it would be enough to notice when he isn't acting as he would normally in her company. So OP if you think his behaviour was off then your right. However it could be something innocent.

Have you seen him hungover yet? To me it sounds like he was hungover. I do be dead to the world after a nights drinking. You have been going out for a few months and if he was taking drugs while out with you I think you'd have noticed it - well I imagine it would be noticable. Keep an eye on it if it is something that worries you.

As for deleting the phone history and avoiding a phone call not much in that (I hope). Lots of people frequently delete all their history/messages etc. As for avoiding the call maybe him being not his usual self meant he just didn't want to talk to anybody.

There are plenty of reasons for him not being his usual self. We all have off days etc.