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Wedding present dilemma

  • 01-09-2012 12:55PM
    #1
    savvyav
    Closed Accounts Posts: 104 ✭✭


    I have been invited to a wedding as a friend's plus one. I was in primary school with the bride but have only seen her once in the last 16 years. I'm just wondering what to do on the present front. I don't want to turn up empty-handed but I'm not exactly rolling in money at the moment as I've just started a new job and I'm on emergency tax. I am taking a day off for this wedding and am forking out for hotel, petrol, drinks, etc. Would a fifty euro voucher for somewhere look stingy? I don't want to come across as tight but as I said, the bride and I aren't close (though we were friendly enough in primary school) so I don't want to spend a heap of money I don't really have. Thanks :)


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  • #2
    xDramaxQueenx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 944 ✭✭✭xDramaxQueenx


    If you're going as a plus one would you not just combine the gift? If 50 is all you can afford, thats all you should give.


  • #3
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    I think 50 euro is generous. If I bring a plus one to a wedding. I cover their contribution to the present.


  • #4
    savvyav
    Closed Accounts Posts: 104 ✭✭savvyav


    Yeah I think maybe I should speak to my friend about it and see what she wants to do. The wedding is in my mother's hometown and I'll know a lot of people at it so I feel like there's more pressure to be generous...silly I know!


  • #5
    ABajaninCork
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,411 ✭✭✭ABajaninCork


    I would agree with the above. However, if you don't want to do that, then how about a nice photo frame with perhaps a snap of the happy couple inside?

    Or a gift voucher for meals. Or gift voucher for M & S/Debenhams/BT, something like that. Debs is probably the best bet as they've always got sales on and you get a bit more for your money.


  • #6
    xDramaxQueenx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 944 ✭✭✭xDramaxQueenx


    Theres no point in flashing cash you don't have. :)


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  • #7
    savvyav
    Closed Accounts Posts: 104 ✭✭savvyav


    Yeah I was thinking Debs or a One for All voucher. And yes, there is no point in flashing cash that I don't have but I guess I have that small rural town mentality where you have a pathological fear of looking stingy :) Thanks guys!


  • #8
    WaltKowalski
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 489 ✭✭WaltKowalski


    Moonbaby wrote: »
    If I bring a plus one to a wedding. I cover their contribution to the present.

    + 1.
    I wouldn't put someone I ask to something to any expense.


  • #9
    rainbowtrout
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,404 ✭✭✭✭rainbowtrout


    I don't think you have to get anything. Anytime I've gone to a wedding and brought a +1 I've covered the cost of the gift myself. I got the invite so it's my responsibility.


  • #10
    john_cappa
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,371 ✭✭✭john_cappa


    Personally I wouldnt go.

    There were plenty I was friendly with in primary school and that I have seen a handful of times since then. Wouldn't think of inviting them to a wedding or expect to be invited to theirs.

    Edit: sorry mis read the OP......didnt realize you were the +1


  • #11
    HeyThereDeliah
    Closed Accounts Posts: 967 ✭✭✭HeyThereDeliah


    savvyav wrote: »
    I have been invited to a wedding as a friend's plus one. I was in primary school with the bride but have only seen her once in the last 16 years. I'm just wondering what to do on the present front. I don't want to turn up empty-handed but I'm not exactly rolling in money at the moment as I've just started a new job and I'm on emergency tax. I am taking a day off for this wedding and am forking out for hotel, petrol, drinks, etc. Would a fifty euro voucher for somewhere look stingy? I don't want to come across as tight but as I said, the bride and I aren't close (though we were friendly enough in primary school) so I don't want to spend a heap of money I don't really have. Thanks :)

    There is no need for you to bring a present the person you are accompanying will give gift for both of ye.


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  • #12
    Minier81
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 643 ✭✭✭Minier81


    HeyThereDeliah wrote: »
    There is no need for you to bring a present the person you are accompanying will give gift for both of ye.

    +1 its the guests responsibility to sort out a gift, not the plus one's.


  • #13
    goldenhoarde
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 863 ✭✭✭goldenhoarde


    ABajaninCork wrote: »
    I would agree with the above. However, if you don't want to do that, then how about a nice photo frame with perhaps a snap of the happy couple inside?

    Or a gift voucher for meals. Or gift voucher for M & S/Debenhams/BT, something like that. Debs is probably the best bet as they've always got sales on and you get a bit more for your money.


    With the photo frame you could get a frame (6x4 as this will be easy to get printed in a chemist etc) and get a snap of the bride and groom on the day at the church, get it printed in a chemist on the way and put it in. It will be nice for them when they open it and see their faces on their wedding day as no doubt it won't be opened for a few weeks until they are back off honeymoon (assuming thery are going away).

    Also agree with the others on what they said re the need for a gift at all as you are a plus one. chat with your friend and see


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