Is something off?

LegacyUser

Hi,

Dating a guy 6 months now. He's kind and treats me well, texts everyday meet up regularly. Have noticed though that he doesn't seem interested in me as a person. He never really asks me stuff apart from how was your day etc. Even then it seems like all he wants is a quick answer no details. He is interested in where I go when not with him, will ask about the night out. It just seems off though like if I told him my grandmother was really sick he never mentions it again or follows up asks how she is. I thought if someone was into you they would want to know about you. I kind of feel he wants a relationship but not anything intimate, like he wants a girlfriend, someone to do stuff with but it makes me feel like he could be doing this with any girl who he met not me in particular. Also in the time we ate together he has never once given me a compliment about how I look if I.get dressed up. The other night I told him the nice stuff I liked about him and said ok now your turn. His response was I'm with you that's enough and maybe someday I will tell you. He is on Facebook am friends with some of his friends but he has never added me. Am not into relationship status stuff but after 6 months think its strange. He is not big into Facebook but still not even as friend

Am not a needy person am very independent but this is making me insecure. Anyone have experience of this? Is it a bit off?

Thanks,

She Who Dares Wins

mmmm I've seen this behaviour before in brothers, feelings may not run too deep here and he may not want them to develop. I'd also look at the physical intimacy, is he only in it for whats going on there and keeping you happy enough to keep 'cooperating'.
Take a few steps back, decrease contact, see how much of an effort he makes off his own back.

Ellsbells

isthisoff wrote: »

Also in the time we ate together he has never once given me a compliment about how I look if I.get dressed up.

isthisoff wrote: »

His response was I'm with you that's enough and maybe someday I will tell you,

These two sentences stand out for me. What is his issue with letting you know you look well or what he likes about you. Yes that is off and I think the 2nd sentence is very controlling.

It's early days and I would not like someone as closed off as this. He sounds like he has issues. Are there other red flags? Have you been integrated to his life at all?

Neyite

I think he is making it clear that he sees it as a casual relationship and that, to him, he does not see it progressing to a deeper level. Of course he could be being cautious to see where it is going but I suspect not.

Jenneke87

Your post made me a bit sad actually. He doesn't have to shower you with compliments daily but some acknowlegdment that he's interested in you and appreciates you dressing up for him, shouldnt be such an issue after 6 months. And no it's not off, everyone likes to get some sort of validation from their boy/girlfriend. The comment:"maybe one day I will say it" almost sounds like he's playing a game to me, see if you will stick around long around to maybe one day hear him say, if your lucky there's no guarentee of course.....:S

Tell him how this makes you feel, I think his response will tell you everything you need to know.