Confused

LegacyUser

Hi all, just hoping to get a differnt perspective on a situation.

I'm a straight guy (26) and have a girlfriend for the last 2 years. Absolutely mad about her. The other day I was at a stag party of a work buddy and because someone in the hotel messed up i ended up roomless. This didn't bother me wasn't there to sleep anyway so I threw my bag in with one of work buddy's other friends I had been talking to earlier in the evening. (just gonna call him bob for the sake of simplicity)

Roll on the end of the night after hours of drinking and talking to bob, we decide to call it a night. when we got back to the room got chatting some more and next thing i realise is that bobs kissing me and i kissed back. we both just laughed it off and went to sleep.(in seperate beds, I had gotten a fold out cot)

Anyway next morning I felt really freaked out when I realised bob didn't mention it(not sure if he remembered) and got out of the room asap. Never been curious bout guys before, now I'm wonderin if i might be bi or was this some random thing! Feel guilty and want to tell my girlfriend but want to know what to tell her first.

I've been wrecking my brains on this the last few days and can't talk to anyone I know bout this so just wondering what others may think.
Also far as i know bob is straight and has a girlfriend.

Locker10a

Relax! DOnt take it so seriously! There is a chance you are both slightly bi but thats doesnt change anything between you and your GF ! Its simply a drunken moment, well all have those!
Id tell you girlfriend but not in a big deal sort of way! Tell her you have a funny story for her! Depending on how you approach this, she will prob just laugh! And she would prob find it ironic that on a stag of all nights her boyfriend ended up shifting another lad! If i was her id be delighted my boyfriend ended up with another straight fella and not a stripper or a drunk hen party girl you met on your drunken endevers! haha

oisindoyle

Perhaps Bob is gay and in the closet ,sounds like it.
It was a drunken kiss no more ,you didnt have sex and you say you are straight with no yearnings to be with a guy .
I would say relax , it happened it's on the past forget about it.
I wouldn't advise that you tell your girlfriend at all, because it could be blown all out of porportion, if that makes sense.
No point beating yourself up over a drunken kiss ,forget about it and enjoy your life with your girlfriend

corked

Might be a silly question but you need to ask yourself did you like it? Were you attracted to him or other guys?

CdeC

Eh I wouldn't say anything to your girlfriend.
If she is the type of person to overthink things then you'll be opening up a whole can of worms.
Just sign it off as a harmless kiss. Something a bit crazy that happened on a stag that girls probably don't want to know about.

LegacyUser

Cheers for the replies. This was more or less what I was thinking myself but just needed to get another point of view.

floggg

Don't say anything to her. It was a kiss FFS. **** happens but you don't go further and it would only cause more trouble than it's worth.

As for whether your gay, did he make you hard? It's usually a good sign of sexual attraction.

The easiest way I can tell is stick on some gay porn and watch. If your underwear gets a bit tighter you are clearly enjoying it on some level.

Or try masturbsting thinking about a guy.

If none of those gets you off, then unfortunately no, you're probably straight.

LegacyUser

I'm a gay man and I was in a similar situation, except I was Bob.

I got drunk with my straight friend a few years ago and we kissed. Admittedly, I kissed him and he kissed me back. It lasted about 10 seconds and that was that. We rolled over and went to sleep.

The next day I spoke to my friend and he put it down to drunken curiosity. He was slightly curious about kissing a guy and now that he's done it, he realises he doesn't want to do it again.

He had a gilrfriend at the time too and didn't tell her. He was afraid of upsetting her. Some girls might be cool about it, others might not.

If I were you I'd just leave it be and move on. Think no more of it.

yagguy

I wonder how often two straight guys kiss?

I remember the first time I kissed a guy; it didn't seem natural at all.