Need advice

LegacyUser

Hi, my head is in knots all week about this girl I met last weekend. We kissed I thought we had a spark, I spent ages with her. I dont know how she feels, we were both drunk so maybe it could have been just a drunken thing for her. I wrote to her on facebook, she replied, but then didn't reply the 2nd time, so should I just assume she isn't interested?? She definitely seen the message, I probably wrote too long a message scared her off maybe, nothing forward just joking about the other night.

Anyway I've since heard she gets around a bit. Even with some of my friends. I dont really care too much about that at all, but it and some other stuff point to her liking the single life. I'm not really that confident especially with women, but I can act confident to a degree. I know I need to do something though. Even to just get my head right and move on. The way I see it is I either:

- Wait until the weekend, hope to see her out again and go from there, at least I'd know then.

- Write to her again on fb to see if she is out again at the weekend. The only thing is I dont want to come across as needy by doing this, and I'd also feel pretty **** if she didn't reply.


Any help would be appreciated thanks

Buncha Fives

I would give it a bit of time its only Wednesday she may message you back over the next couple of days before the weekend... I wouldnt send her another message or you may appear too interested and that would be a receipe for disaster (been there done that!!)

I would hold tight until the weekend and hope that you get a message in the meantime, if not just go out and enjoy yourself as per usual and maybe you will bump into her... it may only have been a drunken snog to her so I wouldnt get too hung up on her.

Hardonraging

headinknots wrote: »

Hi, my head is in knots all week about this girl I met last weekend. We kissed I thought we had a spark, I spent ages with her. I dont know how she feels, we were both drunk so maybe it could have been just a drunken thing for her. I wrote to her on facebook, she replied, but then didn't reply the 2nd time, so should I just assume she isn't interested?? She definitely seen the message, I probably wrote too long a message scared her off maybe, nothing forward just joking about the other night.

Anyway I've since heard she gets around a bit. Even with some of my friends. I dont really care too much about that at all, but it and some other stuff point to her liking the single life. I'm not really that confident especially with women, but I can act confident to a degree. I know I need to do something though. Even to just get my head right and move on. The way I see it is I either:

- Wait until the weekend, hope to see her out again and go from there, at least I'd know then.

- Write to her again on fb to see if she is out again at the weekend. The only thing is I dont want to come across as needy by doing this, and I'd also feel pretty **** if she didn't reply.


Any help would be appreciated thanks

This could be hearsay, speculation, who really knows bar her ..

best advice i can give you, simple ask her if she's interested in grabbing a drink the weekend, or sooner, just the two of you, you'll soon know if she's interested, trying to peg her down straight away will only end in disaster...

blatantrereg

Longer messages take longer to read and write. Therefore they can take a good bit longer to get a response. I wouldn't read too much into it per sé.

Dont think you'd seem needy asking her if she'll be out the weekend, if that's all you say. Your second message to her might have made you seem a bit needy, and have been a bit offputting, if it was really long. Dont worry too much about that though. A single line asking her if she'll be about might dispel that impression rather than reinforce it I think; and might remove feelings of pressure she might feel to get back to you in kind.

If she doesn't reply maybe you'll be disapointed alright, but if she's not interested you're going to face that disappointment at some point anyway.

LegacyUser

blatantrereg wrote: »

Longer messages take longer to read and write. Therefore they can take a good bit longer to get a response. I wouldn't read too much into it per sé.

Dont think you'd seem needy asking her if she'll be out the weekend, if that's all you say. Your second message to her might have made you seem a bit needy, and have been a bit offputting, if it was really long. Dont worry too much about that though. A single line asking her if she'll be about might dispel that impression rather than reinforce it I think; and might remove feelings of pressure she might feel to get back to you in kind.

If she doesn't reply maybe you'll be disapointed alright, but if she's not interested you're going to face that disappointment at some point anyway.

Thanks for the responses.

I think you maybe right, I do have a habit of writing long messages sometimes, I dont know why, it just happens so I can see where your coming from. I might write back to her before the weekend to see if shes going out, your kind of right I'm gonna have to face up to the disappointment if shes not interested sometime.

This stuff seems to come naturally to other lads I know, not me though, I seem to overthink these things in my head and let them build up. I dont know how to stop that?

I also think the rumours I heard are probably that, just rumours so that's also correct.