is this normal? can't stop thinking about it

LegacyUser

there is this women that I kept bumping into around where I live (she does deliveries) Anyway I got to know her and got to talking and i noticed that she was very flirty with me and even stopped her car once or twice to chat to me as she seen me in the area.. I can't describe it but I just felt really close to her but because I am so shy I never asked her out

Anyway, I aint seen her in months but the problem is she is on my mind 24/7 I just cant stop thinking about her.

i'm even thinking things in my head like 'i wonder was she flirting or just being friendly' and every time i see one of her company vans, I look to see if it could be her driving..

I was just wondering is this normal behaviour because it's really stressing me out.

SunnyDub1

You liked the girl, and didn't realize how much you liked her until you stopped seeing her in your area all the time. It happens, and it's normal.

Next time you see the van you could ask the person driving if they could pass on message to her. hand them your name & number on some paper and tell them to pass it onto her

If she calls or texts yay! If she doesn't , well she was just a friendly person so move on.
You won't know till you try. Life is too short to be sitting around waiting, wondering and stressing.

Best of luck

Herrick

If you don't think you'll see her around, maybe try adding her on facebook? Then send her a message like "Hey long time no chat " or something.

Chat a little and then ask her if she'd like to meet for a coffee/drink sometime.

Pa Dee

helpedyhelp wrote: »

there is this women that I kept bumping into around where I live (she does deliveries) Anyway I got to know her and got to talking and i noticed that she was very flirty with me and even stopped her car once or twice to chat to me as she seen me in the area.. I can't describe it but I just felt really close to her but because I am so shy I never asked her out

Anyway, I aint seen her in months but the problem is she is on my mind 24/7 I just cant stop thinking about her.

i'm even thinking things in my head like 'i wonder was she flirting or just being friendly' and every time i see one of her company vans, I look to see if it could be her driving..

I was just wondering is this normal behaviour because it's really stressing me out.

Sounds like you're obsessive since she hasn't been around for months. Consider counselling if this persists

Taltos

Pa Dee - taking a weeks holiday from the forum for medical advice in clear breach of site rules and our charter.

Taltos

ongarboy

helpedyhelp wrote: »

there is this women that I kept bumping into around where I live (she does deliveries) Anyway I got to know her and got to talking and i noticed that she was very flirty with me and even stopped her car once or twice to chat to me as she seen me in the area.. I can't describe it but I just felt really close to her but because I am so shy I never asked her out

Anyway, I aint seen her in months but the problem is she is on my mind 24/7 I just cant stop thinking about her.

i'm even thinking things in my head like 'i wonder was she flirting or just being friendly' and every time i see one of her company vans, I look to see if it could be her driving..

I was just wondering is this normal behaviour because it's really stressing me out.

It's normal to fancy or have a crush on someone. But when you use phrases like "on my mind 24/7" and "really stressing me out", are you saying them literally or just a "crazy in love" sort of way? If literally, I think that is a little unhealthy.

While it's normal to have a crush, obsessing about someone nonstop and being stressed over an almost stranger is not not good or healthy behaviour for you. It suggests you may have too much time to think about this woman and not enough interaction with other people to distract you. Why not call up friends (particularly those you many have not seen for a while) and organise seome meet ups, night out, social activities etc to help take your mind off this girl. It will also expose you to other wider social settings where you might meet someone else.

Also, if you do happen to bump into this girl again, try reciprocating somewhat when she flirts. Casually ask what her plans are for the weekend, how are weekend just gone was, did she head out..get an idea of what she does socially (without interrogating) , if she mentions a pub she went to or is a local for her, open end a question with maybe you might see her there the next weekend? If she thinks you're not making the effort, can you blame her for thinking you're not interested? If however, she's not interested, then you just have to move on and as I said earlier, busy yourself with other people/activities - it's how we meet new people and indeed partners!

up for anything

What age are you, OP? For some reason I'm getting a Mrs Robinson vibe from your post. Steer clear of cougars/auld biddies - we eat you up and spit the bones out.

LegacyUser

ongarboy wrote: »

While it's normal to have a crush, obsessing about someone nonstop and being stressed over an almost stranger is not not good or healthy behaviour for you. It suggests you may have too much time to think about this woman and not enough interaction with other people to distract you. Why not call up friends (particularly those you many have not seen for a while) and organise seome meet ups, night out, social activities etc to help take your mind off this girl. It will also expose you to other wider social settings where you might meet someone else.

As much as I hate to admit it your spot on here.. I have been unemployed for sometime now and have always been a bit of a 'loner' really which never bothered me btw. so I do spend a lot of time on my own and if I am socialising it's usually with the same ol friends i'v known for years.. I have very little money and hate socializing so I feel like i'm in a bit of a rut in all honesty..

up for anything wrote: »

What age are you, OP? For some reason I'm getting a Mrs Robinson vibe from your post. Steer clear of cougars/auld biddies - we eat you up and spit the bones out.

i'm actually only 21, I do feel like i'm a lot older though :P ...

up for anything

helpedyhelp wrote: »

i'm actually only 21, I do feel like i'm a lot older though :P ...

What age is the woman?

LegacyUser

up for anything wrote: »

What age is the woman?

.. she is about 25..