I know he says its OK, but is this too much to ask of my Dad?

Alannah Gallagher

My hands are disabled. I have very little movement in my fingers so I have to hold my knife and fork like you'd hold a small flag, hold a cup with both hands and type from my wrists.

I'd love a pair of pearl stud earrings, and have told this to my Dad. He says if I want my ears pierced I should get them pierced. I said that if I do he'll have to take care of them for me since I can't even hold a normal pen so there is no way I'd be able to turn the studs and clean them myself. Even after they heal I'd need help changing them too.

He said "What's the rule? No special privlidges but as much extra help to do things as you need".

But having him do this for me for six weeks just doesn't seem fair on him, especially with him being so squeamish (he even squirms if he has to remove a splinter for me), I said this to him and he just said "as much extra help as you need" again. He says I'm a 13 year old girl. "Bad hands shouldn't stop me doing girlie things". If I'd get them pierced if my hands worked I should get them pierced. If not I shouldn't. End of story.

Daisy M

Hi well as a parent I think it is more than ok. My 2 girls had their ears done before their communions so they were not old enough to do this for themselves so I did it no big deal. My husband is squeamish but he also did it when he had to again no big deal.

Your dad sounds lovely and you sound like a really considerate young girl you should both be proud of each other.

mamakitten

Not too much at all. My own daughter recently got her ears pierced (age 6) and obviously needed me to clean and turn them. I would be happy to do it for my child at any age if they had difficulties, thats part of our job as parents

LadyMayBelle

Youre 13 right? Still a child. I think it's okay. Unless its evidently uncomfortable for both of you.

aujopimur

It sound like you have a great dad.

Neyite

I think that its not too much to ask of your Dad. Remember, keeping the piercings clean means no nasty infections, so if he wipes them once a day or so, it its unlikely they will develop infections, just avoid nickel earrings as lots of people have a reaction to them.

I think that if I had a daughter I'd be checking her ear piercings regardless of if she has a disability or not to make sure they are healing ok and not getting infected, and helping her clean them, as it can be tricky to clean behind the ear without help.