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feel left out of life!

  • 26-08-2012 2:38pm
    #1
    lmahoney79
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    I am currently recovering from spinal surgery and my life is now based on the couch most of the day. I have a 1 year old son who my partner now cares for full time. All I can do is lay on couch and watch. I feel like a lodger living with a father and his son. I have not left house since leaving hospital 2 weeks ago and am basically no use to anyone. I fear my son won't see me as mammy anymore as he is so attached to his Dad now.


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  • #2
    username123
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    Aw, try not to worry, this is only temporary!! Youre recovering, youre not not use, youre just in recovery phase, you'll recover, then you will get back to normality.

    Im terrible at recovering as well, and a spinal surgery sounds very hard, so just try to remember that its only a temporary thing.


  • #3
    Abi
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    lmahoney79 wrote: »
    I am currently recovering from spinal surgery and my life is now based on the couch most of the day. I have a 1 year old son who my partner now cares for full time. All I can do is lay on couch and watch. I feel like a lodger living with a father and his son. I have not left house since leaving hospital 2 weeks ago and am basically no use to anyone. I fear my son won't see me as mammy anymore as he is so attached to his Dad now.

    You're being very hard on yourself, you've been through very serious surgery. I know you want to go back to your normal role, but you need to let them help you to recover :)

    Your son is clinging to his dad because he is only one, and sees his mum is out of action at the moment. You can still get the little lad to cuddle up with you and you can read him his picture books etc.

    I think it's important that you keep your partner informed as to how you feel. He's probably so busy making sure you're comfortable, fed, watered and rested that he's not seeing how being out of action is affecting you.

    Well done on the op by the way :)


  • #4
    lmahoney79
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,207 ✭✭✭lmahoney79


     

    You're being very hard on yourself, you've been through very serious surgery. I know you want to go back to your normal role, but you need to let them help you to recover :)

    Your son is clinging to his dad because he is only one, and sees his mum is out of action at the moment. You can still get the little lad to cuddle up with you and you can read him his picture books etc.

    I think it's important that you keep your partner informed as to how you feel. He's probably so busy making sure you're comfortable, fed, watered and rested that he's not seeing how being out of action is affecting you.

    Well done on the op by the way :)[/Quote]


    I probably am hard on myself, I guess because I know ill be out of action for a while, I fear he will lose the bond with me.


  • #5
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    lmahoney79 wrote: »
     
    I probably am hard on myself, I guess because I know ill be out of action for a while, I fear he will lose the bond with me.
    Of course he won't, you're his mum :) He has little understanding of what you've been through, but he HAS noticed that Daddy is the carer for both of you at the moment.

    Look at the positive side of this rather than the negative, he's getting time to bond with his Dad. Ordinarily a mum would be delighted to see father and son getting on so well, but you're just frustrated hon. You just want to be able to help take care of him and play with him too. Ask your partner to bring you books and toys he likes and get him to encourage him to sit beside you.

    Watch his favourite cartoons with him too, he'll love that :)


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