Help me with this girl

EdenHazard

Here's the deal, on Fb the other day I got a random poke off this girl, so anyway I 'poked' her back and gave her the add and didn't expect much more after that. Anyway I then decided I'd make some story up about seeing her in town(or her mirror image) in order to start up a convo. Anway we just chatting casually(she kept up the convo at the start) but then it kinda stopped until like 2 days later I got another poke off her(I hadn't replied to her last message) So I went on one of her pics and just went all out and said 'just saying but your actually so good looking, then she liked one of my photos and wrote under a few of them(sadly not as direct as me) I know all the talks of pokes and stuff seems immature, but I'm so attracted to her, she's exactly my type(i.e unreeeeal) and she seems interesting and cool as well.

What you think? I wouldn't mind getting to know her better, i've a friend whose a genius at the whole facebook meet up with random hot girls but he's a lot different to me. I think i'm good looking but this girl is wow :eek: I asked him for advice but I can go into more detail here.
How do I keep up her interest? Would you recommend I just say 'wanna meet up' or is that gonna scare her off? I'm scared my dorky shy self will mess it up because if I was to show you a pic you would be like 'she's a keeper' I suppose though that if a girl like that thinks I'm good looking then whatever happens thats a positive.

Dravokivich

Forget you are on facebook for a second. Too many people latch onto the medium they are using for contacting someone and end up panicking over "what's the proper etiquette on this site."

It's the same thing whenever you are interested in wanting to meet up with someone regardless of how you get to know them. Be it in a pub / social club / work / shop.

The only thing you need to be careful of is not portraying yourself as some sort of "online creep."

By all means though, ask her out as simple as you put it in the OP 'wanna meet up'.

dearg lady

I wouldn't put her too much on a pedestal because of how she looks either. It's only one part of what makes a person attractive... seriously, just ask her to meet up and see what happens.

stargazer 68

EdenHazard wrote: »

I know all the talks of pokes and stuff seems immature,

Would you recommend I just say 'wanna meet up' or is that gonna scare her off? .

Yes it does!!
No do not say 'wanna meet up' - you start another conversation and ask her 'would you like to meet up for a drink or a coffee'

Dravokivich

If they've been messaging each other casually, I think it'd be a bit off personality wise if he was to have a rather drawn out message to ask her out.

stargazer 68

Dravokivich wrote: »

If they've been messaging each other casually, I think it'd be a bit off personality wise if he was to have a rather drawn out message to ask her out.

But he doesnt want to just send her a 'wanna meet up' message like a 15 year old - unless he is 15! lol

saiint

Dovies wrote: »

Yes it does!!
No do not say 'wanna meet up' - you start another conversation and ask her 'would you like to meet up for a drink or a coffee'

your wrong and your right


OP i use to be this so called genius
except for me it wasnt on facebook it was on bebo the good owl years when bebo was more known and mostly used haha
was a good few years now its how i met my current gf actually

anyway

depends how old you are , if your in your late twentys or older well then yes say would you like to meet up for coffee or tea or what ever

but if your any younger , what i used to say was,
are you 085? meteor ( was mainly used for bebo cause of the free talk and texts so if someone wanted your number wed just say you 085)

anyway get her number first, she will give it out straight away guarrenteed if shes going on the way she is, if shes attracted to you then just ask for it
when you get it, text her for a while, then ask her outstraight do ya want meet up? or would you like to meet for coffee ( remember it all depends on how she reacts)

i know for a fact if i asked a girl " would you like to meet up for coffee" when i was that young id get laughed at,
i know some people here will call it immature but its a fact some girls like it when their young most young girls would laugh at it and probably slag ya over it ( although for most girls it wouldnt be a turn off but theyd think your abit posh )

anyway ask her out what ever way you feel comfortable with

meet up and just have a buzz with her
bring her to a pub or the cinema
treat her well dont expect her to pay for anything since your asking her out but of course she will say no il pay for meself but always tell her to put her purse away

if yas get on online its the same as in person, say the same stuff
have abit of banter (if thats wat ya do online)

girls love a fella who makes them laugh if your a funny guy you will be alright, dont do cheesy lines they dont work some girls find them funny most girls just dont like it


dont call it a date (unless your older then your teens or early 20s) most girls would laugh at that
if your young
you know yourself what a meet is

act yourself
theirs nothing worse then not acting yourself pretending to be like someone else then you's end up together and she sees the real you and what your like


once she likes you after the first day
your pretty much set then for seeing her again
if things dont go to plan
theirs plenty more fish in the see and remember theirs always nicer looking girls

wish you all the best

Piliger

Look OP ... this isn't rocket science and it's pretty straight forward. Either she's flirting with you or not. Ask the girl out and get it all over with. This messing about on fb only risks messing it up before it even gets going.

Elmidena

OP, she seems into you but why on earth do you keep not replying to her? And tbh breaking a silence (after a prompt from her no less) the first thing you do is hit her hard with a compliment. That's giving off very mixed signals to her--one minute you're all over her and the next you've pressed the mute button.

You've nothing to lose by asking her out, and you could try make a joke out of your initial lie by saying "So I saw you around town, wanna see around town together?" or something not TOO committal like that. But if she's "a keeper" then start keeping her... playing hard to get can really rub a girl the wrong way, especially when she seems to be making all the moves. Good luck though, hope it works out!