How to reintroduce yourself to a girl you spoke to once?

LegacyUser

Hi all,

Apologies in advance as I am quite aware my problem will seem quite trivial to many of
you, especially as there are people far worse off than me, except I didn't know where
else to look for advice, so I hope this is ok.

I have recently finished first year in college and will be back in second year in a few
weeks. There is a girl in my year (not in the same course as me) and I only spoke to her
once around the start of first year. She seemed nice when I did talk to her, and I have
been trying to motivate myself ever since to talk to her again, and actually get to
know her a bit. I want to talk to her sometime when I'm back in college as I know if I
put it back any longer I never will.

I find her attractive, I think this might possibly be the reason I haven't been able to
speak to her again. I'll also accept it if she has a boyfriend, I'd still be happy being
friends with her as I've been able to overcome feelings in the past for girls I liked,
and it never hurt me in the long run.

I just don't know how to approach her, if she was with friends it seems near impossible
as I'd be approaching a group on my own and the thought that none of them know me, barr
her having only spoke to me once is daunting.

And if she was alone I wouldn't know how to speak to her and get a conversation going.
At this stage I think I'll have to, she probably won't remember me at all, but I'll have
to introduce myself again however I do that and whatever I can talk to her about.

Also I'll let you all know this is not on my mind all the time, I will be well able to
focus on the academic side of things, its only when I see her around college that I want
to just introduce myself again, let her know who I am and about myself. Any advice I get
on this thread I'll put to the back of my mind while I'm studying and in lectures, and
I'll remember it all if I see her around.

Thanks all.

She Who Dares Wins

You're allowed to be distracted by girls in college...its the law and you do sound very practical about it all.

Just go with "well hows it going, long time no see, the last time we spoke we were only innocent freshers". Then ask how her timetable is this year, where she's living etc. If she doesn't remember you, make a joke out of it "i can't believe you don't remember me,,,crushed I am now" smile & wink and walk away. But do chat to her the next time you see her too and the next..............add her on facebook then and have a mooch around to see what you can find out (not at all advocating stalking mods)

If you're going to make a friend out of her you'll need to be persistent and better still if you run into her out some night you'll be able to "have a go".....just maybe don't go making a serious declaration too soon.

snafuk35

just another guy looking for girl advice wrote: »

Hi all,

Apologies in advance as I am quite aware my problem will seem quite trivial to many of
you, especially as there are people far worse off than me, except I didn't know where
else to look for advice, so I hope this is ok.

I have recently finished first year in college and will be back in second year in a few
weeks. There is a girl in my year (not in the same course as me) and I only spoke to her
once around the start of first year. She seemed nice when I did talk to her, and I have
been trying to motivate myself ever since to talk to her again, and actually get to
know her a bit. I want to talk to her sometime when I'm back in college as I know if I
put it back any longer I never will.

I find her attractive, I think this might possibly be the reason I haven't been able to
speak to her again. I'll also accept it if she has a boyfriend, I'd still be happy being
friends with her as I've been able to overcome feelings in the past for girls I liked,
and it never hurt me in the long run.

I just don't know how to approach her, if she was with friends it seems near impossible
as I'd be approaching a group on my own and the thought that none of them know me, barr
her having only spoke to me once is daunting.

And if she was alone I wouldn't know how to speak to her and get a conversation going.
At this stage I think I'll have to, she probably won't remember me at all, but I'll have
to introduce myself again however I do that and whatever I can talk to her about.

Also I'll let you all know this is not on my mind all the time, I will be well able to
focus on the academic side of things, its only when I see her around college that I want
to just introduce myself again, let her know who I am and about myself. Any advice I get
on this thread I'll put to the back of my mind while I'm studying and in lectures, and
I'll remember it all if I see her around.

Thanks all.

If you don't know what to say or how to start a conversation with a girl on her own or with a group of girls then you are just going to have to learn the hard way.
At first girls will tell you to get lost and leave them alone but the more you approach other girls the more you will learn what to say and what not to say.
Learn from your mistakes and keep trying with other girls until eventually you won't think twice about starting a conversation with the opposite sex.
You don't have to put on an act or pretend to be Mr. Cool or Mr. Intelligent or anything else. You just have to be you.
Work on having interesting things to talk about, learning how to listen to what people say and how to notice if they were interested in you or if they want you to leave them alone. You can only do this by trial and error.
You are always going to meet people who will reject you and other people who will be rude but you will also meet people who will like you immediately and people who will want to spend time with you.
But you have to make the first move by opening your mouth and talking to them.
Saying nothing and avoiding rejection and avoiding feeling hurt will mean you will never get anywhere and you will miss opportunities that are all around you.
So don't obssess about a girl you had a 30 second conversation with that she probably forgot about instantly and stopping putting her on a pedestal.
She is only one girl out millions of others in the world.