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Unrequited

  • 20-08-2012 5:04pm
    #1
    sibeniklove
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9 ✭


    I have been in love with the same man for two years and four months. Is it really love though if they don't love you back? Infatuation maybe? I'm not sure how to describe it. But i have had strong feeling for the same man for this long. I adore him.

    He has made it very clear that he does not feel the same way. There is deffinatly no chance. He has been very patient and kind to me and is always friendly when we meet which is nearly every weekend. But, he doesn't feel the same way.

    The stupid thing is i don't want to stop loving him. I want to wait, even though i have already waited so long. I love him.

    What i want to know is how. HOw should i move on? How should i let go of this guy who has been so kind and nice and find someone who does like me. I need to move on


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  • #2
    Piliger
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,741 ✭✭✭Piliger


    Hi OP. I really do sympathise.

    The first thing to realise is that this is a perfectly normal thing to feel, unrequited love. It's a painful thing. What is the problem is not being able to move on.

    You just haven't taken hold of yourself and accepted this situation. You have not accepted that this is NOT going to happen, no matter how long you wait. He is NOT going to change his mind no matter how long you wait. NEVER.

    You need to accept this OP. You need to accept it now. You have no more time to waste.

    Then you need to change your life so you don't keep seeing him, and get out and about and start meeting more people, and doing more things, and getting on with the life you are piddling away down a bottomless drain.

    No one says it's easy. It's not. But we have only one life. Only one life to live.


  • #3
    daisybelle2008
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,403 ✭✭✭daisybelle2008


    OP, don't try too hard, give yourself time. This too shall pass! It looks like you do accept that it won't happen. look on the upside, it is nice that you have that love to give. Keep busy and focus on other things. The right person will come along.


  • #4
    beks101
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,802 ✭✭✭beks101


    Why are you meeting this guy every weekend? This is self-destructive, you know your feelings for him won't change and you know he definitely doesn't feel the same.

    Why won't you walk away and allow yourself a chance at actually finding happiness?


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