moving on

LegacyUser

Hey,

My ex and I broke up about two months ago. We've been texting since though, and he's been saying that he will eventually want to get back together with me. Now he's telling me that he is seeing someone else, and I feel so stupid for believing him. I've sent him texts saying I love him, how much he means to me, and I should have picked up the signs as he wouldn't reply when I'd send that text, but all I wanted out of him was respect. So I kept saying, you know, why aren't you replying. He let me send these texts and pour my heart out to him. I'm going to CBT and came to a conclusion last week and told him about it. And he seemed like he cared. But he doesn't. And i just feel so stupid and idiotic for believing him and hoping we'd make it back together. I know everyone goes through heartbreak, but does anyone have any advice?

I know I have to tear myself away, I've to move on, because right now I hate him, but seriously, I just want a bit of respect from him to at least say sorry for leading me on

Hardonraging

inworkad wrote: »

Hey,

My ex and I broke up about two months ago. We've been texting since though, and he's been saying that he will eventually want to get back together with me. Now he's telling me that he is seeing someone else, and I feel so stupid for believing him. I've sent him texts saying I love him, how much he means to me, and I should have picked up the signs as he wouldn't reply when I'd send that text, but all I wanted out of him was respect. So I kept saying, you know, why aren't you replying. He let me send these texts and pour my heart out to him. I'm going to CBT and came to a conclusion last week and told him about it. And he seemed like he cared. But he doesn't. And i just feel so stupid and idiotic for believing him and hoping we'd make it back together. I know everyone goes through heartbreak, but does anyone have any advice?

I know I have to tear myself away, I've to move on, because right now I hate him, but seriously, I just want a bit of respect from him to at least say sorry for leading me on

Unfortunately it's one of those things in life, we all encounter at one time or another, heart ache/break.

It was unfair of him to lead you on, however i assume he was scared and emotional at the time, i will say this, he could at last attempt to be decent about it and spare your feelings some what.

If i were you i'd spend time with family and friend, try to keep your mind off him, and know that in time the feeling's will pass, and your life will move on, this is the same for everyone else who's experienced it .

Buncha Fives

OP: I feel really sorry and its annoying when someone cant at least show you the respect you deserve, even though its hard to make sense of it you need to realise that someone who treats you like this is not good enough for you and you are better off without him. I have went through a painful break-up myself recently and its gut wrenching but after a lot of heartache I am starting to turn a corner on it and I know that I will eventually be better off.

A break-up leaves a terrible void and emptiness in your life but you need to seperate this from your feelings for your ex. If he doesn't treat you with respect then you are better off without him and hopefully you will meet someone else soon...

AllyMcFearless

Sorry to hear But if he's going to treat you as an option, he's not worth waiting around for.

Gooner111

Try distract yourself with other things...friends, family, hobbies etc. Don't keep in contact wtih him as it will do you no good.

You broke up months ago so am assuming you got some reasons for why it ended. He could have been decent and stuck to those reasons instead of telling you there was a chance of getting back together and giving you false hope. You are better off without him and it is his loss not yours.

gonebeyondajoke

I know what you are going through this happened with my ex gf years ago and I thought my world had collapsed, the guy she got with was a rebound and it didn't last. we eventually got back together and things were great for awhile but the same thing happened all over again and the second time it felt 1000 times worse because I trusted her not to do it again and she did.The pair of you broke up for a reason or maybe a number of reasons and they won't just disappear if you get back together, don't let him use residual feelings you may have to get you back because it won't end well unless you both deal with the reasons you broke up in the first place it just paints over them