How Important Is A Persons Salary To You In A Relationship??

Cybercubed

How important is a persons education and in particular their salary (or financial security) in a relationship to you? Assuming of course a more educated a person is the more financial stable they might be (obviously I realise thats not always the case!).

But does financial stability to you mean a lot in a relationship, you find a person you love, but who's constantly on the dole or a person who's a highly qualified doctor/dentist/laywer? Does it have a bearing?

Is financial security important when it comes to do dating someone? Almost to a point is a person who very financially sound and highly qualified more attractive than an identical person who is not??

0ph0rce0

Wouldnt be important to me, If you love someone, You love someone

The King of Moo

Neither their education nor their salary are important to me.

What they're like as a person, fundamentally, is important.
That, and if they're good looking.

Sunnyisland

Wouldn't make a difference to me, Its what makes them from the inside that counts :-)

Lando Griffin

So you met a girl last night who is beneath you and as soon as the hangover is over you poll AH to see if you should met her again. For shame

Local-womanizer

I find people with money are ignorant fools who think they are better than everyone, so I try to avoid their types! You know to avoid them as if they are wealthy they let you know about it.

Of course not every wealthy person is like this before all the elite here jump on their high horses and direct their butlers to berate me :pac:

Red Hand

The King of Moo wrote: »

Neither their education nor their salary are important to me.

What they're like as a person, fundamentally, is important.
That, and if they're good looking.

You shall find your Queen of Moo someday. And have many Moo children.

I'd hope that they would be able to support themselves. As regards being rich or education, wouldn't really matter. So long as they are funny, intelligent, and physically fit, then it's all good.

RMD

It is irrelevant, I'd only like their salary to be sufficient enough that they don't see me as some sort of cash cow for their benefit.

Gran Hermano

Very. I would hate to have to stoop as low as indulging in predrinks or not afford friends a decent wedding present t.

shopaholic01

0ph0rce0 wrote: »

Wouldnt be important to me, If you love someone, You love someone

I agree with this, however I would have a problem with someone who didn't want to work.

Salary is unimportant and I wouldn't have a problem with someone being genuinely unemployed. In fact, someone on a higher salary would probably have a more stressful job (not always, I know) and may have less free time. I don't see the point in earning a large salary if it affects your work/life balance.

A person and their personal attributes attract you, valuing someone on their salary is shallow.

DColeman

So what about a person who's constantly on the dole?

flutterflye

Wouldn't matter a damn to me at all.
I have a family and a mortgage and that, so I would obviously like to have some sort of financial stability, but it's not something I'd consider that important in the grand scheme of things.
I do prefer people to have a brain in their head! - Someone who can think for themselves - Someone who reads up on things and educates themselves.
An actual third degree education isn't so important though.
Motivation and drive in terms of a career aren't important to me, but life goals and aspirations are important.

shopaholic01

DColeman wrote: »

So what about a person who's constantly on the dole?

By choice - no way
By circumstance - not a problem

Colmustard

Oh it would, I want to meet a woman who earns 100,000 plus and live the dream as a house husband.

Get up at 11 put my bets on watch the races over a few pints with the mates, come home and order the Chinese and give her a list of the housework that needs doing.

PS No kids.

My name is URL

DColeman wrote: »

So what about a person who's constantly on the dole?

They'd need to work very hard in other areas to make up for it!

shopaholic01

Gran Hermano wrote: »

Very. I would hate to have to stoop as low as indulging in predrinks or not afford friends a decent wedding present t.

But you could always start a thread about it;).

anncoates

Very important.

Dating a pov is a big no-no.

Where To

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY

Colmustard

I was out last year and I got talking to a rather attractive foreigner at the bar, she asked do you work and I said yeas, at what, I told her and she said that will do and she wrapped her arms around me. It was that straight forward and simple.

The thing is I wasn't really chatting her up, just chatting, I wasn't really interested in her that way, so nothing happened.

blacklilly

Colmustard wrote: »

Oh it would, I want to meet a woman who earns 100,000 plus and live the dream as a house husband.

Get up at 11 put my bets on watch the races over a few pints with the mates, come home and order the Chinese and give her a list of the housework that needs doing.

PS No kids.

You sound like me dream man!marry me!

Halfpan

It wouldn't bother me to be honest. Now if a girl was sitting around doing nothing and had no intention of looking for work, that might throw me off a bit. How much money a girl has, or how well educated she is wouldn't come in to play though so long as I get along with her.

Colmustard

blacklilly wrote: »

You sound like me dream man!marry me!

What is your income.

I left out I promise you enough loving that I want. It will also have to be an open relationship for me so I can have affairs with your sisters and the neighbours.

bodice ripper

not at all.


I'd prefer ambition wasn't diverting energy away from sex drive.

Gummy Panda

I care more about the level of belly rubs on offer

blacklilly

Colmustard wrote: »

blacklilly wrote: »

You sound like me dream man!marry me!

What is your income.

I left out I promise you enough loving that I want. It will also have to be an open relationship for me so I can have affairs with your sisters and the neighbours.

My income will sustain your boozing lifestyle and pay for my work related costs easily.
I've no sister but my mum is a bit of alright and I'd say she'll love you.
How much loving do you usually want?

Colmustard

blacklilly wrote: »

My income will sustain your boozing lifestyle and pay for my work related costs easily.
I've no sister but my mum is a bit of alright and I'd say she'll love you.
How much loving do you usually want?

I will settle for twice a day, but once with you and off course I will visit your mother.

blacklilly

Only twice a day?

Colmustard

blacklilly wrote: »

Only twice a day?

Afraid so, there will be a lot of booze in the system. But to compensate I will only take 50% of your salary for pocket money I am sure you will have a bit left for yourself after you pay the bills.

stepbar

Halfpan wrote: »

It wouldn't bother me to be honest. Now if a girl was sitting around doing nothing and had no intention of looking for work, that might throw me off a bit. How much money a girl has, or how well educated she is wouldn't come in to play though so long as I get along with her.

Definitely my attitude - she would need to be working and independent in her own right.

blacklilly

Ah no, take 65% at least, I'm low maintenance with a high maintenance look plus I just want to make you happy. The only thing I'll ask of you in that you never leave the toilet seat up

Lippy C

You could have partner that did not earn much but you could have great silly/real conversation with...money does'nt mean everything it helps but not basis of relationship...

Colmustard

blacklilly wrote: »

Ah no, take 65% at least, I'm low maintenance with a high maintenance look plus I just want to make you happy. The only thing I'll ask of you in that you never leave the toilet seat up

LOL
Ahhh women you's are so demanding.

I kid you not I actually work with a Vietnamese girl who has 2 jobs and supports a husband who has never worked.

Yeah he hit the jackpot, I jest, a total waster, it seems to be a cultural thing that she will never leave him.

Eathrin

Ambition is very important to me.

blacklilly

Colmustard wrote: »

blacklilly wrote: »

Ah no, take 65% at least, I'm low maintenance with a high maintenance look plus I just want to make you happy. The only thing I'll ask of you in that you never leave the toilet seat up

LOL
Ahhh women you's are so demanding.

I kid you not I actually work with a Vietnamese girl who has 2 jobs and supports a husband who has never worked.

Yeah he hit the jackpot, I jest, a total waster, it seems to be a cultural thing that she will never leave him.

Ahhhhh:( I thought you were being serious.

That's pretty sad but then again we all know women who are married to rich men and everything is done for them. Doesn't matter how ugly or how lacking in the personality department you are, if you're a filthy rich man, a model will fall in love with you

Miss Lockhart

Salary is not something I would consider in a partner. Like others though, I am not interested in somebody who sees the dole as a career choice or is not willing to upskill/retrain to get off it. The only non-workers I could see myself with would be someone very rich (for whatever reason) who can support themself without work, or a full-time parent.

Being very honest I would be extremely reluctant to get into a serious partnership (with legal implications) with somebody with significant debt.

Esoteric_

I don't give a damn what my partner earns, tbh. As long as they can hold a decent conversation and I like them as a person, I'm happy.

On the dole by circumstance, I'm fine with that. By choice, dealbreaker for me.

Cuddlesworth

Salary isn't important. But some form of ambition and drive is.

marshbaboon

Once they have ambition & passion salary means nothing to me. I've been in a relationship with a girl that had no form of income. I had a high salary at the time so I just paid for everything.

Money really means very little to me.

Millicent

It's really nice to see the "it's not important" option winning but at the same time, people should be aware that a lack of money can put a huge strain on a relationship once a couple moves in together. I say this as someone who's been the one to strain the relationship with a lack of money and who has had a lot of pressure put on me as the one earning the lion's share. A happy medium, where possible, is the way to go. While it shouldn't matter, the sad fact of the matter is sometimes it does.

Magenta

I wouldn't go out with a guy who chose to sit at home on the dole.

Ambition and interests are very important to me. I broke up with my last boyfriend because I got so bored of him, he has little to no passion in anything.
He really liked me, but I just felt like I'd seen all there was to see in him.

The Idyll Race

With me, it isn't important.

With one exception, with every woman I have ever dated it has.

Marriage is a financial transaction and those who believe it isn't are fooling themselves.

marshbaboon

Magenta wrote: »

I wouldn't go out with a guy who chose to sit at home on the dole.

Ambition and interests are very important to me. I broke up with my last boyfriend because I got so bored of him, he has little to no passion in anything.
He really liked me, but I just felt like I'd seen all there was to see in him.

I've been that guy before. Luckily people change.

Ficheall

shopaholic01 wrote: »

I agree with this, however I would have a problem with someone who didn't want to work.

Who wants to work?

shopaholic01

Ficheall wrote: »

Who wants to work?

Good point - change it to refuses to work.

Miss Lockhart

Ficheall wrote: »

Who wants to work?

I'm perfectly happy working and would choose to continue, albeit in a part-time, flexible capacity, even if I won the euromillions.

Vicar in a tutu

Not important at all... If I loved them and they loved me I'd rather them be happy stacking shelves than be unhappy doing something else...

As the beatles said... '' All you need is love'' :pac:

emzolita

Aw so proud of the results of that.
Defo wouldn't bother me what he earns as long as he works hard, be it in McDonald's or as a CEO.

fkt

Their salary itself; not important. But it is essential for me that a person knows whats they want to do career-wise and has the mind to go and achieve it, that they do have genuine personal ambition and the desire to be financially self-sufficient. Success is an appealing trait.

GalwayKiefer

From a purely financial point of view I'm more interested in how a potential partner spends their money than what they earn. I detest stinginess but at the same time I wouldn't want to be with someone who digs themselves into holes by living beyond their means on credit cards etc.