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Can I make new friends?

  • 17-08-2012 8:56pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    hey everyone.

    I feel silly writing this as I know there are far more serious issues in people's lives. I guess I'm just very sad and scared right now!!

    The two best friends I had for years have deserted me. One in particular basically told me everything she hated about me a few days ago and although she apologised, well it doesnt feel the same anymore. Feels like a lie has been held in place for years and finally I know how she thinks of me. Needless to say it was a shock. The other friend doesnt hurt as much, mainly because she's been away for a good while, coming and going and never maintained contact even though I tried. Also because my main friend and I were very close, did a lot together, been through a lot together and well I understand how friendships fall apart and fade, thats life, but I never saw that happening in this one and well Im devestated over what she said that night she had a go at me.
    I have a few other friends but am not very close to them and well the two I had are now best buddies all of a sudden again. Its terribly childish all of this but it hurts.

    My plan is to start my postgrad next year. Im 22 by the way and will be moving to another city, where I know no one. Im scared I wont make new friends, everyone at that seems to be sorted friend wise and I know no one at all. I dont want to be alone. I went it alone and moved to a new city when I did my undergrad and made friends, but I just dont feel I have it in me anymore.

    I am exhausted, this year has been nothing but drama with these friends who blame me entirely. I listened to every moan and cry about their lives and when I had bad moments in my life, that one friend repeated it all back to me the last night.

    I dont know what Im looking for right now, reassurance, a few nice words. I just know for a fact I dont want to be sad anymore or feel on guard when talking to that friend in particular knowing the others will hear everything I have said and when a disagreement or a bad day ensues, all my flaws will be thrown back at me.


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  • #2
    a fat guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 800 ✭✭✭a fat guy


    It sounds more like they weren't real friends, but more like emotional blankets for you. People who you get on well with and share secrets, listen to problems, confide in, etc. I suppose that is a friendship in itself, but are you certain that you don't just need a confidant, rather than a best buddy?

    You'll make friends, people always do throughout their lives, but are you sure you needed these people as much as you think you did?


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