Seriously unsettled - what to do

LegacyUser

Hey, going unreg for this. I'm a f late twenties and just feel so unsettled. I'm currently working and studying part time. I have a great bf, but I just feel so unsettled at the moment. Part of me just wants to end my relationship and take off travelling when I finish my studies. I feel as if this might be irresponsible though as I still don't know what I want to do with myself. I don't know what it is I just feel seriously bored and just want more from life. Like I have all this energy I need to go and get rid of. I want to do great things with my life and don't think i'll ever be able to settle for mediocre. My bf is amazing and fun, but think I have a bit more of an outgoing streak than he does and he's a lot more level headed than I am. Sorry if none of this makes sense, just need to vent. Is it normal to feel so all over the place at this age? I still don't know what I want to do with my life. I was thinking of starting to do art or something, just in my spare time, just to be doing something creative and using my energy in a positive way. This might sound stupid and melodramatic, but I feel like i'm waiting for my life to begin or something. Sorry if i'm waffling any advice would be greatly appreciated.

looksee

Go, go, go. But having gone, remember that you will have to make a living and that will involve doing much the same as you are doing at the moment. So you could go somewhere else and be bored!

Are you going to look for different work here when you have finished studying? Do you have a good job that you basically enjoy? Would it be a pity to drop it when maybe some more energetic and demanding spare time occupation would be enough?

You are looking for something creative maybe? Would you consider taking on a house and restoring it? That would certainly take up all your energy! Do it as a personal challenge though, if your bf is someone who will always do the 'oh I don't think we could do that' then don't be in a situation where you have to share the responsibility. On the other hand a level head is sometimes a good idea on a project like that!

Look around at some of the more obscure interests that people have - theatre (being involved, not just watching!), sailing, bushcraft, re-enactment, something that will push your limits and get you really involved.

As to whether you sound crazy, no, not at all, I have now reached retirement and I still feel like that sometimes. I just need the energy to go with it!

LegacyUser

looksee wrote: »

Go, go, go. But having gone, remember that you will have to make a living and that will involve doing much the same as you are doing at the moment. So you could go somewhere else and be bored!

Are you going to look for different work here when you have finished studying? Do you have a good job that you basically enjoy? Would it be a pity to drop it when maybe some more energetic and demanding spare time occupation would be enough?

You are looking for something creative maybe? Would you consider taking on a house and restoring it? That would certainly take up all your energy! Do it as a personal challenge though, if your bf is someone who will always do the 'oh I don't think we could do that' then don't be in a situation where you have to share the responsibility. On the other hand a level head is sometimes a good idea on a project like that!

Look around at some of the more obscure interests that people have - theatre (being involved, not just watching!), sailing, bushcraft, re-enactment, something that will push your limits and get you really involved.

As to whether you sound crazy, no, not at all, I have now reached retirement and I still feel like that sometimes. I just need the energy to go with it!

Thanks for the reply, I am bored to tears in my job so won't miss it

LegacyUser

I wonder about the significance of the fact that you appear to not wish to include your partner in your plans or ideas? Would he not up sticks and leave with you?

Being super cynical for a second, I wonder why you keep him around if he bores you? Is it a long term/ comfort thing? There's two of you in it and you're not doing this guy any favours if you're just waiting for something better to come along.

jessiejam

Talk to your boyfriend that is if you want him to go with you. He might be feeling bored too.

Travel the world girl, follow your heart and your dreams. If you boyfriend is in those dreams even better. No one I know ever regretted traveling the world. If you have the travel bug then go!

You could be tied down in a job married with kids etc before you know it and might not get the opportunity again.

LegacyUser

njibhu wrote: »

I wonder about the significance of the fact that you appear to not wish to include your partner in your plans or ideas? Would he not up sticks and leave with you?

Being super cynical for a second, I wonder why you keep him around if he bores you? Is it a long term/ comfort thing? There's two of you in it and you're not doing this guy any favours if you're just waiting for something better to come along.

I never said he bores me ???????? He has no real interest in travelling

edellc

You get one life girl go live it for you, you are too young to be tied down in a relationship, sit down and have a chat with him if he truly loves you he will let you go, yes its heartbreaking but life is short and we cant always do what makes others happy and if we are not happy ourselves how can we make someone else happy.

Go live you dream OP, peace and love x