18 years old, look like a 14 year old.

LegacyUser

Basically I am recently turned 18, going into 6th year. I'm not necessarily ugly but I am small(about 5 foot 8), skinny and have quite a baby face. So basically I could very easily pass for a 15/16 year old. Now since I'm 18 I want to start having a few relationships, I know there's no rush but I feel like I'm ready for one. Problem is that girls seem to go for older guys anyway(a lot of girls I know who are 17 are going out with 19/20 year olds) the last thing they want to do is go for someone who looks a few years younger than them.

To give you an example to show it's not in my head, I sometimes get refused to 16s movies, I get the child tickets for the bus without being questioned and am physically smaller than the majority of 4th years and a lot of 3rd years in my school.

I am quite good with people socially, both male and female so I don't have a problem there, but I just get the feeling that anyone my age won't want to go for me unless they're drunk(and to me that's taking advantage of them so not an option). I could very easily get girls who are in the 16/15 age range but like 15 is just too young for me, I'd feel like a predator! and 16 is limiting sexually(which is kind of important for me, call me shallow)

So I suppose what I'm asking is what do you suggest I do? Just grin and bear it until I'm a bit older? Is it possible that it's just the girls I know that go for older guys?

leeroybrown

Just don't worry about it too much for now and be yourself. I know people in their 20s who look about 15 and they still do ok for themselves. Also, once you go to college the clock gets reset a bit for a lot of the age stuff.

orchidsrpretty

OP, I would of been like you when I was younger, I am very young looking, only 5"2 in height. When all my friends looked really old and sexy I looked like a twelve year old. To top it all off I was a late developer too(around 16 before I had boobs).
But, I never had a problem getting a bf because of my young looks. There really is someone for everyone(and many more). If anything I had more bfs than my friends growing up, they may of had more one night kisses etc but i always seemed to get the phone numbers and get dates.
I am now 28, and still get passed for a 16 year old, and tbh it can be nice, but sometimes it can be annoying as people can have a condesending way of talking to people who they think are younger.
There is not much you can do about the way you look, you will have to grow to love yourself, make the best of what you have. Confidence goes along way in attracting a potential partner so try work on that.

Edit: just realised you are a male, but still most of the advice still stands! Its all about the confidence!

ultra_other

Hi OP,
I was just like you, but for me it was a 20+ years ago, looked young 5' 8" and skinny, and a major problem getting into niteclubls!, trying to convince bouncers of my age a nightmare :eek:.
I would not worry to much about meeting someone just yet.
Just remember when you are not in a relationship everyone else is in one or so it seams to be.
You will find the right person, it will come along just be patient. When you meet that person you will know, trust me, you will have a reaction to that person like you never had before, and don't be afraid, "a faint hart never won the fair madian"
Remember that you are or will probably be going to collage and that as they say is an eye opener .

tricialou

you ll grow into yourself!
It sounds like your a really decent guy and youll be fine

saiint

get a tattoo :P
on a more serious note
dont worry
my mate is 21 he looks about 13 , hes small, babyface, no facial hair at all and yet he has a gf whos 24 has a child with her and their having their second baby soon ( was a mistake though )
on the other hand
im 19 i look about 23
when i was 13 i used to get served smokes and drink because i looked alot older then i was also my height helped im 6ft 4 :P

just dont worry
theirs a women out their for everyone
go out to a club ur guarrenteed to get a girl

if your really insecure over it, grow a beard or something
but seriously its nothing to over react with,


edit: also no your not wrong
girls mostly go for guys who are older, but the girls who go for older guys genuinely end up with guys who look or are younger then them
my gf is 2 years older then me she thought i was 3 years older then her when we first went out ha
her ma called me a pedo haha until i told her me age
now she calls her the pedo

irelandspurs

Mate don't worry about it,i'm 28 and still can't get served with out id.You shouldn't have trouble meeting a girl,not all young girls want older men and just think when your my age you'll have all the 17 18 year olds wanting you.