First gay date

mnlad

So had my first ever gay date last night at the ripe age of 26, and wow went great not too long ago i finally accepted myself and from reading threads on here it gave me the get up and go to do somehting with my life both mentally and physically. Basically i just want to write a successful story here maybe as hope for other guys who were like me, i was like so many guys on here went through denial and hated the gay scene, every guy was camp etc... but i took a gamble on a guy on all places grindr, from the word go we just chatted no sleezy talk like whats the norm on grindr, 2 weeks of chatting everyday we arrange the meet, my stomach was sick with nerves as was his it turns out. The second i sat into his car i thought wow this guy is hot, i did have reservations before i met i thought oh maybe this guy will turn on camp but he was far from it, we went back to mine and just chatted watched tv etc.. then coming home time i tried to suss him out and subsequently found out after he was trying the same and we both thought that nothing was going to happen. Anyway just before he left we locked eyes and for an hour solid kissed, all i can say it was electric and felt so good and most importantly so right. Already were looking forward to next meet it wont be easy as were not out fully etc... but we can make it work. If you said to me 6 months ago i would be on a date with a great guy i would have laughed at you but since accepting myself and taking advice on board from here namely, flogg, baztard, fairytalegirl, 1zred and bleepp. we may not have directly had a conversation but your comments in regard to other peoples troubles inspired me to face my fears and give it a go and truely thank you guys also there are numours others on here who give excellent advice i just cant name everyone:D
heres to a better happier future anyone reading this who was like me it does get better and you will get there at your own pace, when it does its soo worth it

1ZRed

Congrats to you man for having the courage to follow through! Hope it keeps getting better for you

Aurongroove

I'm envious man.

Had my first couple of dates there only a few months back and no Mr. Right so far. You're story has given me some inspiration though.

oisindoyle

Congratulations on your "new life" and congrats on your first date .
Only negative thing I would say is dont be so hard on the "camp" gay guy.
From what you said you do seem to have a hang up about them .
Please remember camp guys are who they are ,they also have the same fears and worries as you and I .
Just a thought

mnlad

i cant thank posts so i will reply, i realise how lucky i am to find mr right and cant believe it personally myself but their out there hiding;), i have no problem with camp guys their just not my preference but i appreciate were your coming from alot of us so called "macho" men come on here giving the camp guys a hard time, but as much as the rest of us struggled with our sexuality i know they had a harder time most likely during school years and certainly have more balls and grit determination than me i totally respect were your coming from, and being honest i think we all have our camp moments at times....

oisindoyle

mnlad wrote: »

i cant thank posts so i will reply, i realise how lucky i am to find mr right and cant believe it personally myself but their out there hiding;), i have no problem with camp guys their just not my preference but i appreciate were your coming from alot of us so called "macho" men come on here giving the camp guys a hard time, but as much as the rest of us struggled with our sexuality i know they had a harder time most likely during school years and certainly have more balls and grit determination than me i totally respect were your coming from, and being honest i think we all have our camp moments at times....

Exactly ,Yes I would imagine camp guys do get a hard time a tad more than the rest of us .In every way from media to comedians to God knows who and it aint right in my opinion ,
I do find it very odd /strange /and sad that other gay guys give camp guys a rough deal if you like .
You would imagine given all our struggles gays would steer away from criticism of camp guys .
Rant over ,,,congrats again on your date I wish you well

Conor30

Great to hear it went well. Normally they advise people to meet in a neutral place on a first date, but bringing him back to yours seems to have worked out well. Long may it bring you happiness!

floggg

Congrats and fair play to you.

And don't worry, good guys* aren't that hard to find. The hard part is just getting yourself to start looking!

*Though one generally ends up having to go through a few of the good ones before you find a great one!

Towely2000

Congrats it certainly gives hope to the rest of us single guys

i_steal_sheep

mnlad wrote: »

So had my first ever gay date last night at the ripe age of 26, and wow went great not too long ago i finally accepted myself and from reading threads on here it gave me the get up and go to do somehting with my life both mentally and physically. Basically i just want to write a successful story here maybe as hope for other guys who were like me, i was like so many guys on here went through denial and hated the gay scene, every guy was camp etc... but i took a gamble on a guy on all places grindr, from the word go we just chatted no sleezy talk like whats the norm on grindr, 2 weeks of chatting everyday we arrange the meet, my stomach was sick with nerves as was his it turns out. The second i sat into his car i thought wow this guy is hot, i did have reservations before i met i thought oh maybe this guy will turn on camp but he was far from it, we went back to mine and just chatted watched tv etc.. then coming home time i tried to suss him out and subsequently found out after he was trying the same and we both thought that nothing was going to happen. Anyway just before he left we locked eyes and for an hour solid kissed, all i can say it was electric and felt so good and most importantly so right. Already were looking forward to next meet it wont be easy as were not out fully etc... but we can make it work. If you said to me 6 months ago i would be on a date with a great guy i would have laughed at you but since accepting myself and taking advice on board from here namely, flogg, baztard, fairytalegirl, 1zred and bleepp. we may not have directly had a conversation but your comments in regard to other peoples troubles inspired me to face my fears and give it a go and truely thank you guys also there are numours others on here who give excellent advice i just cant name everyone:D
heres to a better happier future anyone reading this who was like me it does get better and you will get there at your own pace, when it does its soo worth it

Maithú mnlad. Fair play to you. You're probably thinking to yourself, what all the big deal was about in your own head up to this but it is a journey that every lad must make I think. Everything happens in its own good time. The very best of luck to you - enjoy it :-)

Beruthiel

mnlad wrote: »

all i can say it was electric and felt so good and most importantly so right. Already were looking forward to next meet

Delighted for ya mnlad.
Best of luck with your new beau.

mnlad

cheers for replies all:D

floggg

Care to let us know how things went since?

mnlad

things going fantastic since in fact a bit euphoric really, i was just discussing this on saturday that im 26 and its bout time i had some loving going on in my life and makes for a healty change, but to answer your question were really going from strength to strength, i actually feel like a 16 yr old with all our texts phone calls and so on:D only thing is now as you may have read in reply to another thread is that things are starting to getting serious and the coming out might be the next headache, however im not worrying about that for now and enjoying what i have and have been missing for so long

jaffacakesyum

Always great to hear stories like this

bikeman1

Brilliant to hear another success story. Keep it up and take one step at a time.

Aurongroove

I miiiiight have a success story, in the coming weeks. fingers crossed.

...and I'm 27 so my life is pathetic:(





(:Djoke obviously)

Rick_

I am insanely jealous OP....! :mad:

But at the same time very happy for you. Nice to hear of success stories.

I only hope one day I have mine.... *cries*




I'd like to thank the Academy....
 
 
 

inish2owen

Im new here and this is the first thing i read, im 29 and have recently descovered that im gay have yet to have my first date, i dont really know where to start i live in the middle of nowhere but if anyone knows of lesbian hang outs in Letterkenny or Derry please let me know:) and congrats on the success of your first date

petersburg2002

My youngest cousin came out at 25. Every time I see him, he has a young brazilian guy in tow. He seems to like the latin guys. Says they are easy to get along with. Mite try to find myself a latin woman.

floggg

petersburg2002 wrote: »

My youngest cousin came out at 25. Every time I see him, he has a young brazilian guy in tow. He seems to like the latin guys. Says they are easy to get along with. Mite try to find myself a latin woman.

I think it's just that there are so many gay Brazilians around Dublin. Every second person in the George seems to be Brazilian these days.

jaydoxx

floggg wrote: »

I think it's just that there are so many gay Brazilians around Dublin. Every second person in the George seems to be Brazilian these days.

Every second person in Dublin seems to be Brazilian as far as I can tell :P

petersburg2002

jaydoxx wrote: »

Every second person in Dublin seems to be Brazilian as far as I can tell :P

Well most are easy on the eye, so I wound't complain And they seem a jolly bunch

1ZRed

petersburg2002 wrote: »

Well most are easy on the eye, so I wound't complain And they seem a jolly bunch

About as hung as they are hot as well! I'd never turn one down myself

petersburg2002

1ZRed wrote: »

About as hung as they are hot as well! I'd never turn one down myself

Ha ha. You seem to speak from experience. Randy young devil ya.

1ZRed

petersburg2002 wrote: »

Ha ha. You seem to speak from experience. Randy young devil ya.

Ah, I like to enjoy myself ;D

wonderfulname

Take the chat elsewhere and leave this thread for the topic at hand.

cartell_best

OP, I'm delighted to go through this thread and see that you're happy out. Its half the battle and well done! Its not as tough as we all think Inishowen, I can't go into any detail here but a good friend of mine came out to me a couple of months ago. I never thought nor did it ever cross my mind that she was gay. She phoned me up one day out of the blue and told me she was gay. I never realised or thought she was, because she is just one of my best mates, and my friendship with her was unconditional. Like yourself, she lives in the middle of nowhere and I had the pleasure of being with her in Dublin a few weeks back on her first visit to a gay venue. I couldn't have been happier. And the mad thing is, on her second venture, she met someone, who is in my opinion, her doppelganger. Just brilliant the way the way the two of them carry on ... A sight for sore eyes at the best of times... It all works out, it does