At 34 I've turned into a teenager again

mor_rigan

I think this is the right forum to post my question.

I'm 34 and I like this guy L. We met at work in a shopping centre though at different shops. We have been flirting hot and heavy for over 6 months now. He is a wonderful flirt and often says things that cannot be misinterpreted like "you make my heart beat faster" and blows me kisses. He has slept with other women during the six months which is grand but he kept it quiet. I only found out through a friend of a friend.

He is flirty but would never make a move. Last weekend, I met him out drunk and he kissed me then vanished instantly, while I was going weak at the knees. A couple of hours later, I found him to say goodnight and asked him to walk me to my car (I obviously wasn't drinking) and he said no and kissed me again.

So I'm walking on air all week and I see him at work yesterday. He mentioned that I had been completely drunk last weekend and asked me did I remember. I informed him as to my sober state and he seemed fairly surprised.

We chatted and flirted throughout the day. At one point his sister was there. She is usually polite but not friendly (she's a professional contact of mine) but yesterday, she was smiley, chatty and v friendly.

Now to my question cos I've been out of the dating game for a while and don't know how to proceed, does it sound like he is interested? I'll probably see him out tonight and since it's my turn I should make a move. I've no problem doing that but would like it to be welcomed rather than rejected.

I am head over heels for him but do he sound interested. I'll make a move tonight regardless but would love to have some objective advice.

Thanks for reading

blatantrereg

Sounds like he loves how into him you are. Doesn't sound like he's that into you. I'd say he'd welcome your attention yes. I dont think he reciprocates the same level of interest though.

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blatantrereg wrote: »

Sounds like he loves how into him you are. Doesn't sound like he's that into you. I'd say he'd welcome your attention yes. I dont think he recipricates the same level of interest though.

i completely agree with this,the sister being nice just sounds like coincidence,if i was you i'd tread carefully,he sounds like a dirtbag..............this is coming from a former dirtbag

Cheeky_gal

So this guy has slept with several women in the past 6 months, chats you up with the lamest lines ever, bumps into you out one night and gives you a kiss then "runs off", you ask him if he'll walk you to your car and he says "no".

And you are asking if this guy is into you?

Oh OP, please find a guy who is mature and will be a gent in your company. I don't know why girls settle for men like this. Likewise with men by the way.

Stavro Mueller

Agreed with all of the above. Seeing as he has slept with other women in the past 6 months, it's not as if he's shy or slow on the uptake. He sounds more like one of these people who enjoys "the chase" but doesn't actually want to catch what they've been pursuing.

bfocusd

cymbaline wrote: »

Agreed with all of the above. Seeing as he has slept with other women in the past 6 months, it's not as if he's shy or slow on the uptake. He sounds more like one of these people who enjoys "the chase" but doesn't actually want to catch what they've been pursuing.

He wants the one night catch, then sets them free the next morning

mor_rigan

OP here. I gotta say that I disagree with you all but I did ask after all! I don't find it weird for him to sleep with other people since we've been flirting.

Our flirting is casual and he doesn't and cannot make a move when sober. It's the case with quite a few country lads. Alcohol bring up their self esteem and decreases their shyness. All his hookups have been drunken ones. In a small town everybody knows everything.

Also i'm no doormat and have plenty of self esteem. I happily enjoy one night standswith no strings. He is the first guy I've liked in ages and I wanted a multi night stand. But if he's not up for it i'm not going to cry into my pillow at night, I'll shurg my shoulders and move on.

Thanks for the feedback

ash23

He kissed you and ran off. Then refused to walk you to your car but kissed you again.

OP, if he liked you for 6 months and finally got to kiss you, drunk or not, he'd have been as ecstatic as you were. He'd have walked you to your car. He'd probably have walked you to the moon if he liked you as much as you like him. Because that is what people do when they like another person. He'd have made sure you got to your car safe and sound and he'd have followed up with you, arranging a date.

I think you've forgotten how people act when they are actually into a person. And someday you'll meet someone who is really into you, and you will laugh at the excuses you made for this Lothario.

You want to believe he likes you because you're mad about him. It's understandable but you are kidding yourself I'm afraid.

However I do think you should ask him out. But I think he will turn you down. But I think it's important that he does before you waste another 6 months pining over him and making excuses for him.

Ellsbells

mor_rigan wrote: »

. I met him out drunk and he kissed me then vanished instantly, while I was going weak at the knees.

mor_rigan wrote: »

A couple of hours later, I found him to say goodnight and asked him to walk me to my car (I obviously wasn't drinking) and he said no and kissed me again.

Op I think you have your blinkers on... Does the above lead you to believe he is genuinely interested??