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In such a rut

  • 11-08-2012 2:39pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Fairly regular poster here going anon for this.

    Like so many people posting here at the moment I'm a child/victim of the Celtic Tiger. I've just finished my masters and went on a work placement as part of my course. The placement was supposed to last 2 months but ended up being five months. I got paid for it which was brilliant and unexpected.

    However now it's come to an end, or it will at the end of the month. I originally planned on staying up here (around 200km from home) whatever happened, even if I had to work in a shop or whatever. (Not that I think I'm too good for that but it's not what I want to do). My boss said I could do the odd day here or there come September but that was way too vague for me and I couldn't commit or afford to live here for the odd day here or there. (It is really expensive to live here). So I'm all set to move home at the end of August.

    Most of my friends have left the area, my closest friend is moving back home too and to be honest, much as I love her, living with her has grown a bit wearying in the last few months. So I don't have anything keeping me up there. I really enjoyed my placement but at the same time there isn't much scope for being creative in it, I am the bottom of the ladder.

    I feel like I'm giving up.

    I'm planning to do TEFL next month and then I am thinking of going to Spain or somewhere, there is no point being on the dole, but then my industry is all contacts and I worry that when I come back I'll be out of the loop. But then I've always wanted to travel and see more of the world, so I don't know.

    If other aspects of my life were going well this wouldn't be so bad. But I have been single since 2008, there have been a few nice guys I could have given more of a chance to but I'm too afraid of being hurt. I have been hung up on a friend for a long time but the chances of anything happening there are actually impossible, and he just makes me feel worse about myself. We spent a lot of time apart this year and I felt better for it, but when we met up recently old feelings resurfaced.

    If I go home for a few months and do TEFL and leave Ireland, am I running away? I feel like a failure for not being able to stick things out- staying in a city where I have hardly any friends or a job but contacts in the industry I'm in, would that make me more of an adult and more independent?

    Sorry for the length of this, and thanks in advance for any advice at all.


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  • #2
    looksee
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    What is 'giving up' about going elsewhere to find work? If there is a realistic chance where you are, then give it a bit of time - your work placement hasn't even finished yet. If not, then go somewhere else. Though Spain might not be the best idea, they are in the same bind as us :(

    You have no ties, no reason not to go where-ever there is a chance of work. Of course you want a job in the area you have qualified in but in the meantime you may have to take what you can get. My daughter finished her Masters last year and is working in a deli in the UK - with a massive loan to repay.

    Its not easy and its a bit daunting, but you do have a bit of work experience, and the freedom to chase jobs. Don't panic, make a start on the applications, don't limit yourself to a particular area, chase up the contacts you mentioned, you never know!

    Good luck!


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP here again. I guess I was just wondering if I was doing the right thing. As for my placement, I don't know if there is any need for me in it, and I'm kind of sick of life up here to be honest.

    It was great at first but alot of my friends moved away for the summer, then ended up falling out with a few of the girls, didn't click with new housemates, terminally single, so yeah :)

    With Spain it's just a notion, know their unemployment is like 24% or something ridiculous, but was thinking TEFL. I know a few girls who have gone over there and seems like they are having a blast, and I really feel like getting out of this country with its crap weather, crap economy etc. At least Spain doesn't have the crap weather!

    Thanks Looksee, I really just needed a bit of reassurance. Time is ticking down to the end of my lease up here and I felt like by moving back home with Mammy I was giving up a bit, and I'm afraid I will get too comfortable at home....


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